Dating and courting has changed over the years—and thus, too, all the games we play to make ourselves more intriguing to the opposite sex. Sure, things like playing “hard to get” have been around in the girl’s dating rule book for centuries, but it’s taken on a different incarnation in the age of smartphones and social media.
So, ladies, whether you’re trying to woo a new dating prospect or attempting to take your early-stage relationship from casual to serious, the key to your success might be understanding these five major turn-offs for the modern man. Jet mag has the story.
OK, ladies, it’s your turn. Recently we wrote an article about what turns off women. As you know, our lists could be longer, but we kept it to five.
But what about men? What turns them off and gives them pause in a relationship? After interviewing a panel of men, I realized that as much as we may think turning on a man is easy, you’ll never fully succeed if you are always turning him off.
If you’re wondering what’s shutting down your relationship success, read on to discover the five ways in which you could be turning off your man in a major way!
1) Put down that phone, tablet, and laptop!
We are all hyper-connected to our technology, and technology is an amazing and splendid thing. Ladies, I get it. I realize the love affair you have with your social media. It’s all too easy to become consumed by Tumblr, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and Facebook among the many other social media outlets. But too much focus on social media is one of the quickest ways to turn off your man.
When I spoke with the men on my panel, across the board, they stated that when a woman is more interested in her social media page than life itself, it is one of the biggest ways to shut down his attraction to her. Social media is not your job or your lover. And it’s important to learn how to balance out your social media use so you don’t leave your man feeling completely neglected or he doesn’t end up leaving you.
2) You are all about your man to the 100th degree.
Yes, men love it when you are into them. They love to have their ego stroked and for you to be attentive to their needs. It’s flattering. But clinginess, insecurity and no sense of self are so not attractive. You are much more interesting and become sexier in a man’s eyes when you also have a sense of independence and a life of your own too. Yes, you should have an interest in what your man is doing, but you also have your life too! Don’t forget to continue to do the things that attracted your man to you in the first place and that you enjoy too. It will make you happier, self-assured and that much more intriguing!
3) Not embracing your natural beauty.
Men like it when you change up your look. It adds to your mystique and mystery. But being too overdone whether it be by going overboard with too much hair, over the top makeup or just trying to be someone else rather than you quickly diminishes rather than increases your attractiveness factor.
It was rather funny to hear men’s opinions of what is attractive to them. All of the men agreed on the panel that a lot of what we do to increase our beauty doesn’t necessarily make you more attractive in their eyes. Most women, they stated, look better without the exaggerated hair, attire, and makeup. Just a reminder to be natural, feminine and true to yourself. This is the ultimate secret to finding your sexy and keeping your man turned on!
Jump over to JetMag.com to read the rest.
BMWK, what else do you think turns men off in the dating stages?