Despite having to repeatedly scold myself about the price of wasted time, I senselessly devoted the last 74 minutes of my life, scrolling purposelessly through social media. Right at the height of reprimanding myself, I stumbled across an 11-word quote that resonated so deep in my heart that I convinced myself this quote was worthy of the hour and a half I just spent online.
Visually ordinary, the grey background and black font read, “dear, future wife. I know, but be patient. I’m almost there.”
How could something so simple be so profound?
The above quote caused me to ponder, what if the failed love affairs on our journey are merely a message from the universe? Could the universe be telling us: In order to invite love in, one must first master patience?
Here we are rushing love and dishonoring the process. While your life partner is being prepared for you, here are ways that you can ensure you are equipped and ready to receive the gift of love.
Curtail the Confusion
Finally acknowledging that we were ruinous to each other’s sanity, 6 years gone and one child later, my relationship came to a screeching halt. My newfound freedom kept me on dance floors with my hands up, bellowing, “Single Ladies,” trying to channel my inner Beyoncé. My lower inhibitions not only made me approachable but exceptionally attractive to all the wrong men. It didn’t take me long to realize my breakup left my life in a state of confusion. And this disarray probably felt like, home sweet home to chaotic souls.
Your soul mate deserves a serene and trusting place to take shelter. You have an obligation to your future life partner to clean up all your affairs. This includes paying off outstanding debt, severing ties with old partners and expunging toxic people and poisonous energy from your life!
Seek Self-Love
Yearning to pamper your special someone with admiration and affection, makes waiting for him or her one of the most exhilarating yet irritating feelings in the world. While it is easy to grow tireless and frustrated, holding on to the hope that love will soon arrive, this is the perfect time to lavish yourself with pleasurable experiences.
Self-worth is easily one of the most crucial elements of a healthy relationship. Your lover will need instructions on how to love you properly, be sure you have enough knowledge to teach them.
Justify Your Je Ne Sais Quoi
Ever make eye contact with someone and instantly feel rushed with warmth? Without uttering a single word, this stranger managed to stirs up unspeakable and slightly inappropriate thoughts. This is the power of energy.
Chemistry is irrefutable. It’s the delicate fusion of two people’s physical, mental and sexual forces. Clear your aura as it will either entice or repel your future love. Your aim should be to emit such powerful vibrations, your future spouse can’t miss you. So when you do meet your future spouse, you can allow that indescribable attraction to resonate freely without negative vibes or past baggage.
Harness Your Higher Power
Whether you consider yourself to be spiritual or religious, when seeking love and companionship, align yourself with your higher power. It will prove to be beneficial. Finding strength in your faith or belief system will not only offer you comfort when frustration is high and patience is low, but it will help you stay grounded in your morals and attentive to your needs.
Appeal with Ambition
Patience is a virtue. Putting yourself in position to meet the love of your life and standing still waiting to be found are two entirely different approaches. One is passive in orientation, and the other demands action. Your passion is something your future spouse will find attractive in you.
Being unapologetically devoted to your goals will lessen the chances of being distracted by the wrong man or woman. Your desire for personal success also serves as a signal to any admirer that in order to approach you, they need to make sure they have their ducks in a row too.
Emanate the Extraordinary
Maturation will prompt you to alter your expectations and higher your standards. Be committed to delivering excellence in every aspect of your life. It;s imperative that you remove any thoughts of settling from your psyche. By holding yourself accountable to being exceptional at all times, you greatly diminish the likelihood that you will permit or make space in your life for someone who is not equally yoked.
Erratic in our efforts to find true love, we can be dismissive of how critical it is to lend ourselves to the preparation process.
A life overflowing with mayhem is not a suitable home for healthy love. Not only do strong relationships demand that both parties have a rich sense of self but the exchange of positive energy. Loneliness can cause us to make desperate decisions. Instead of entertaining unworthy lovers, fill your time with conversations with your higher power and the relentless pursuit of your dreams.
The key to finding love is not to search for it but to perfect yourself, be patience and allow your heart to be found.
BMWK, are you ready for love?