Some of the most interesting concepts, comments, and thoughts come from conversations about marriage. As a relationship professional, I often find myself giving single women dating advice to help prepare them for marriage. I have learned, through those discussions, that what we say about marriage and how we express our needs may have an impact on the type of person that may be showing up for us or not showing up at all. In a recent conversation with a few of my single girlfriends, we explored this topic a bit more.
Single Women Dating Advice in 2020 | The Conversations Single Women Are Having Right Now and How It May Be Affecting Marriage Prospects
In This Article:
- What Dating During COVID Has Revealed
- What Single Women Are Talking About Now And Its Impact
- What Single Women Need
- What Single Women Don’t Want
- What The Future Holds
- A Marriage Prospect’s Key Ingredients
- Dating and Opportunity
What Dating During COVID Has Revealed
The COVID landscape has really shifted the way I give single women dating advice. My single girlfriends are very vocal and in tune with what they desire from a potential mate. They are very aware of their own needs and aren’t afraid to be upfront and honest in the conversations they are having right now about being single. Though they desire to be married, they have also decided not to settle. Dating during COVID has also had an impact on their ability to connect with that special someone. It has allowed them to really look at potential relationships through a different lens. For those currently dating, it has allowed them to step outside of the relationship and see it for it really is. Conversations are a bit deeper and are now going beneath the surface and really providing an opportunity to get to know someone without the facade. Real character is now on display and many single women can clearly see a potential mate and what they bring to a relationship. The removal of the activities that come along with dating leaves us with only conversation. And that can reveal quite a few truths that can make or break a relationship.
What Single Women Are Talking About Now
Single women are actually tired of discussing why they are single. The search for love can be difficult, and discussing the reasons why is tiresome. They have real concerns about finding that special someone. They wonder how long it will take and even joke about having geriatric pregnancies. The bottom line is they want good men who will love and respect them, and they want them now. The conversations they are having do have an impact on a potential mate. Let’s explore a few of those thoughts and get into my single women dating advice for this winter season of 2020.
What Single Women Need
The Thought: Single women are talking about what they need. Many women are in this interesting space where they can provide for themselves and don’t necessarily buy into the idea of the traditional roles from the past. The phrase “I don’t need a man!” is still being used pretty often. And we all understand where it comes from. We can surely survive on our own and we don’t want to need someone so much we no longer rely on ourselves. Women are independent and don’t want anyone to forget that.
The Impact: Though we are independent and can take care of ourselves, a man wants to feel needed by his woman. They want to know that they are able to add value to your life. They don’t want to feel like an accessory to a woman’s already fabulous life. If they do, they may not stick around. The goal of any healthy relationship is to build a life together. There has to be a special space for a potential mate to fit into your life.
What Single Women Don’t Want
The Thought: Single women are also talking about what they don’t want. They don’t want a man’s baggage. Hurt from past relationships, baby momma drama, bruised egos and being a momma’s boy are those things single women would rather avoid altogether. They simply don’t want men who aren’t doing the work of healing themselves. Self-care has been such a central theme this year. Women seem to be taking full advantage of loving themselves and seeking help, but wonder if men are doing the same.
The Impact: The truth is we all have some type of baggage we bring into a potential relationship. It is important to be aware of our own and not be so quick to write someone off because they have a set of their own baggage. We sometimes forget we have the power to encourage others. Many men have been taught to avoid dealing with their emotions. So many have to be untaught those damaging ideas. Being emotionally stable takes work, along with having the support of someone who cares.
What The Future Holds
The Thought: Single women are talking about the future. They are focused on family, a career, retiring and planning for the rest of their lives. They want men who are also thinking about what the future will bring. A man who doesn’t have a plan is frightening to many single women.
The Impact: Here’s a nugget of single women dating advice from a happily married woman. Not discussing the future will have you in a long-term relationship with no destination. It will negatively impact your marriage prospect. Single women should absolutely be discussing how they are preparing for their lives, along with asking the same questions of any potential mate. This type of conversation is beneficial to have with a marriage prospect.
A Marriage Prospect’s Key Ingredients
The Thought: Single women are also talking about a marriage prospect’s key ingredients. Women want companionship, a solid friendship, a man who is well-mannered and family-focused, with some level of education. They want a life partner who is trustworthy. They desire good vibes only and want a man who brings that positive energy. They want intimacy as opposed to just sex anytime a man wants it. They want to be valued and always respected.
The Impact: What women want isn’t that different from what men want in a relationship. This is another topic of conversation that should happen as early in a relationship as possible. Women should be comfortable talking about what matters most to them without the fear of scaring a potential partner away. When you don’t have these conversations you end up in a dead end relationship with unmet needs.
Dating and Opportunity
The Thought: Single women are talking about dating and opportunity. My single friends shared that they are not meeting the men they really deserve. They are doing the work by letting go of bad habits and have been really good about not holding on to no good men. They are ready to love and are definitely making themselves available.
The Impact: The key to having the opportunity is making yourself available. Though it’s harder than ever to actually date right now, it is important to make sure you are putting yourself out there in the ways that you can. You can do that by letting your friends know you are looking to meet someone and if they know someone to make an introduction. You can also join online dating services and participate in virtual events and activities that bring new people into your space. A marriage prospect could be within your reach, so it’s important to create the opportunities that make you visible.
The conversations single women are currently having helps them explore what they want as well as avoid what they don’t want in a potential mate. My best piece of single women dating advice? Let’s keep these conversations going.
BMWK, what conversations are you currently having about being single, dating, and marriage?