As you probably already know, Tamar Braxton gave birth to a baby boy, as she tweeted last month. So a big congrats is in order for her and husband Vince! But backlashing began to take effect for this new mom when she shared this with Cherise Nicole of CocoaFab: “Logan is everything. He is so yummy. Immediately everything changes but immediately you don’t fall in love. But I heard that you do, but they lied. Somebody lied. Just like you fall in love with a person, its just like that. They’re little people. He is so yummy.”
Now I’ll be honest and say that my initial reaction was, “What is wrong with her?” However, after thinking it through, and watching the interview, I have to say that I can (kind of) empathize with her. For the record, I most definitely fell in love with all of my babies when I first laid eyes on them. But I also went through a small bout of post partum depression after my last child was born. When talking to other moms who had a much more serious diagnosis, and reading several online forums, I was amazed at the number of moms who felt the same way that Tamar did. Some of them even felt resentment because they never wanted kids in the first place but gave in to their spouse, so they felt trapped. Others may have had great careers, and just didn’t connect because there was a drastic change in going from the corporate world, to staying home with a baby they couldn’t really interact with (*raises hand). I’m not implying that Tamar is going through PPD because some women do experience these feelings and it’s not because they have PPD or that they’re a bad mom.
If you’ve watched even just one episode of the Tamar and Vince show, then you know how important it has been for her to get her album recorded and get it released. I remember them having a few baby conversations and her being adamant about not being ready [to have kids] until her album dropped. Well, God had other plans and blessed them with Logan. So now she has the added stress of having to lose the baby weight before her album drops in September, not to mention all of the appearances/interviews/shows she’ll have to do to promote the album. That would be a lot of stress on any mom, so multiply that three-fold for a celebrity mom, and you might be able to understand a little (maybe), where her comment/feelings were coming from. I know looks can be deceiving but she definitely looks like she’s happy to be a mom, and even happier when talking about the interaction between Logan and Vince. I’m really looking forward to seeing how Logan will change her, so it’ll be intersting to watch.
Now, I understand everyone experiences different emotions when having a child and I really can’t speak for Tamar. But personally, I could never compare the love I had for my newborn babies, to falling in love with my husband. It was definitely a different kind of love that only a mom could understand and have for her child.
BMWK moms, was it love at first site with you and your child? If not were you surprised? How did you deal with it?