Some women cringe whenever they hear the word submit.
The dictionary definition of submit is give over or yield to the power or authority of another.
That definition would make most women stop in their tracks. Who really wants to give someone else power over them? Not very many. It’s a heavy word that has caused friction in marriages for many years.
Power, in most people’s mind, means control. Some women interpret it as they have no voice, no thoughts or no opinions on any subject. Of course, this makes the idea of submission a really tough pill to swallow.
Women, especially today, are independent. They pride themselves on the decisions they make and the sense of freedom they have that comes with being that independent woman.
Submitting is the last thing they want to do. Some have been single for a while, so when it comes to merging their lives with someone, it can be a bit of a challenge.
I believe many may have the wrong idea about submission. If you’re Christian, you’re probably already familiar with the following scripture in Ephesians chapter 5, verses 22 to 28:
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.”
Some women fear they’re going to lose some of who they are if they allow their husband to be head over them. Most forget the other part of the scripture, which reminds husbands how to love their wives.
Loving someone as much as Christ loved the church is a greater responsibility than submitting, in my opinion. I personally feel that my husband loving me like that, makes submission easy.
Another big concern, that I often hear about that word “submit” is that the husband isn’t worthy of submission.
I often wonder how a person marries someone they can’t trust to guide their family. If one can’t trust the decisions their spouse makes, there may be another issue that must be addressed.
The concerns most women have about submission are valid. For me and my household, I trust the decisions my husband makes for our family because we discuss them together. I do have a voice, thoughts and opinions and they matter in my marriage.
Submit to me, means trust. I believe in my husband and I trust that he will always do what’s absolute best for our family.
My husband, children and I are a team. He’s the captain of our team, and I thank God that my husband leads it very well.
BMWK, what are your thoughts on the word “submit”?