by Eric Payne
Several months ago on this site there were a number of articles that discussed the nuances and the problems that arise in marriages/relationships when the woman leads and is the major decision-maker.
However,what happens if and when the dynamic changes, whether it be by circumstance — the loss of a job, the birth of a child, or something similar — or conscious decision or some combination of both? When the formerly conspicuously quiet or indecisive man suddenly begins asserting himself, making those necessary key and critical decisions for the well being of his own life and the lives of his family members, then what? Will you, as the woman who was the former lead”...
- acquiesce to your “new and improved husband” – happy that he’s finally “arrived?”
- seek to find a balance that allows the two of you work cohesively together as a unit?
- disbelieve and fight against the change because you are unable to accept him as a decision maker although you previously resented him for not being one?
Ladies, please know that the last option listed above is not the stuff that healthy relationships and marriages are made of. Be careful what you ask for and be careful of your gripes against your mate. Because if he’s listening and should the day come that he decides and does step up to the plate to be the man you’ve always wanted and/or needed you’re going to have to step along with him or stand against him.
Are you willing? Are you able? Will you be ready?
Follow Eric on Facebook and Twitter. He has written the articles Investing In An Emotional Letdown and the now infamous, My Wife Is NOT My Friend (on Facebook). He keeps it candid about being a man, dad and husband on his blog, Makes Me Wanna Holler.com. In his “spare time” Eric reviews autos, tech products and writes relationship articles for Atlanta-based J’Adore Magazine.