I was recently asked why abandoning children is often done by men. As a man fully committed to the well-being of my family, I don't believe there's one single answer to why this happens. Still, I know for a fact that fear, if left unchecked, will send a man down a road of no return. Abandoning Children | Why Men Do It In this article: Abandonment Is a Reaction to Fear … [Read more...]
An Open Letter, From Father To Son As You Begin College
It's been couple of weeks since my wife and I dropped our son off for college for his freshman year. I have to say only now are we beginning to adjust. Even with our very vocal daughter still under our charge the quiet emptiness our son has left behind is palpable. For years I salivated over the idea of getting him out of the house. He ate too much, slept too much and did too … [Read more...]
Marriage: Only Grown Folks Need Apply
I state the following only because at times I have been guilty of it myself: There is a game of love, but marriage is not a game. Marriage is not for the faint of heart nor for children. You are in this together for the sake of each other to make two better together than apart; To enjoy life and make it rich in ways money can't provide. It isn't a competition. It isn't about … [Read more...]
Investing Into The Sexual Health of Your Marriage
Not long ago a woman was complaining to me about her husband when she suddenly interrupted herself and said, "You know I should probably be more intimate with him...We'd probably get along better and it probably would help me from being stressed out. But it's hard." "There's a reason intimacy is supposed to exist between married folks," I said. "It ain't about some dude, your … [Read more...]
Women: Over-Emotional or Under-Valued?
One day I was speaking with a woman about the dating game and she had plenty to say about being disappointed by men, black men, as she is African American and they are her preference for dating. When I asked her why she cited a specific example and gave me way more detail than I asked for or expected. The following is what she explained to me: On Monday He [her current man] … [Read more...]
I Love Black Women
I was recently hoodwinked by Facebook. An article came up in my feed about the firing of Satoshi Kanazawa over his very unscientific blog post in Psychology Today about African American women being unattractive. This news is nearly two years old and the offensive article in question, even older. But it did get me to thinking the mere notion of any subset of women as being … [Read more...]
7 Keys to Success in Life and Love
So if your 2013 has been anything like mine you went into it without resolutions and simply prepared for success. 2012 was a year that for many, just needed to end. But good does come from bad. You have the opportunity to be blessed by your struggles and hardships if you allow yourself to learn from them. As the preachers say, "Turn your setbacks into setups!" The following … [Read more...]
Give Wifey Something To Come Home To
When my wife is out I worry, not about what she is doing or who she is with, but whether or not she is safe. There are many times when she loses track of time or thinks that because she's out with a group she is safe. But it doesn't work that way. As a spouse I believe it's our jobs to keep each other updated on our whereabouts, exactly for the reasons many would figure it … [Read more...]
How To Get Rid of the Honey-Do List and Keep It Gone
Someone I know, a man, recently told me me he believes something in women's DNA requires them to always have a man tasked. He went on to say if we aren't doing anything then either something is wrong or we must have forgotten to do something we were told to do. I should point out this man is divorced, but plenty of married men feel the same way. In spite of this, I accidentally … [Read more...]
4 Proven Acts That Will Show Your Wife You Love Her
Adapted from the article: 5 Ways To Show Your Wife You Love Her They say actions speak louder than words... I wish I could say I'm the most doting of husbands, but I'm not. In fact, I've often confused being hardworking (I work hard in the Honey-Do department) and the former as being one in the same. Based on my love of my kids I've even gone so far, after bending over … [Read more...]
My Wife IS NOT My Friend (On Facebook) – 3 Years Later
This is a follow-up to the popular BMWK classic: My Wife Is Not My Friend On Facebook My wife and I are connected on Instagram, Pinterest, GetGlue and Twitter. My wife and I work out together, watch movies together and go on dates. After receiving "hate email" a few days ago, over the Facebook article I wrote here almost three years ago. I decided it was time to write a … [Read more...]
You Get What You Pay For
A couple weeks back when news of the $5 billion Facebook IPO broke I thought to myself, "I seriously needed to be in on that!" along with a few other choice words of regret. And I'm sure I'm not alone. As I read the articles and the list of investors who will soon be new billionaires or solidly established millionaires well into the hundreds of millions, I had much … [Read more...]
Would You Cut Off Your Marriage If It Was Your Hand?
After going over some bible verses and catching up on some personal development reading, I recently had a revelation about marriage. Both the institution and my own. I suddenly realized that I was missing a key piece of common sense information that can serve as a guide for me to all but ensure the success of my marriage. And what is this little gold nugget? My marriage and my … [Read more...]
Fatherhood In Black: Tray Chaney
Welcome to the inaugural post of Fatherhood In Black. NAME: Tray Chaney OCCUPATION: Entertainer (The Wire, Something The Lord Made, Fatherhood) AGE: 30 STATUS: Married HOW MANY KIDS: 2 KID(S) AGES: 5 years old YOUR ONE SENTENCE STATEMENT/FEELING ON FATHERHOOD: Our kids are the future! We have to be there for them! It's easy to debate with words and … [Read more...]
Ways To Enjoy 2012…And Your Marriage
There's no denying that 2011 was tough. But now it's a New Year, but is it a New You? It's in the days after Christmas and the first week or so of January that everywhere you turn people profess their desire to "begin again!" Although January is just another month, using the beginning of the year as a starting point can be healthy. The following are some strategies, NOT … [Read more...]