Men are usually direct. Although they may not talk as often as we would prefer, they usually know how to say what they’re thinking. There are, however, moments where our men may not directly verbalize what they’re feeling, but may drop hints instead. Ladies, it’s important to pay very close attention to those clues, and take action where necessary. Here’s what to look for:
Someone Else’s Situation
The first message is when he comments on someone else’s situation in a certain clear and precise way. Listen, because he is providing some info you need to hear. For example, if he seems to understand why another man cheated on his wife and verbalizes that thinking in front of you, he’s speaking to you, sweetie. In that moment he is letting you know that it is a need of his that may not be getting met. Asking more clarifying questions and acknowledging your part, will only benefit your marriage.
Body Language
The next type of message our husbands send is in the body language. You can see and feel frustration from sighs, facial expressions and an overall low energy. Whenever we are demonstrating a behavior our men don’t like, they’ll let us know in some form or fashion. If you’re talking too much, pay attention to the lack of connection your husband may be displaying at that time. It’s a sign to get to the point. If you’re saying something that seems disrespectful, pay attention to how the energy shifts, and in those moments, make a different choice.
He Makes Suggestions For You
And lastly, when he makes suggestions for you, please know they are more than merely suggestions. It’s usually something he would like you to do something about, sooner rather than later. Asking if he can treat you to a pedicure or hair appointment is a great example of what he wants you to do. Please don’t be offended, just do it. You definitely want to maintain the physical attraction in your marriage.
Of course we’d rather have our husbands come right out and ask for things like more intimacy, or more home cooked meals. But if he does not, we have to be willing to listen between those lines, and promptly make corrections. Believe me ladies, I know of what I speak. We can’t be so tied up into the fact that he didn’t come right out and say it. That’s an immature position to take. We must remember we don’t all communicate the same. Those signs are the inside scoop that provides us with the information we need to make our marriages better.
BMWK, what message do you think husbands send that should be added to this list?