I’ve heard many women complaining about their mother-in laws and wanted to share some advice about how to deal with her. Women are not the only ones with mother-in-law issues; men also have monster-in-laws too. There are certain do’s and don’ts that can help you maintain your sanity when dealing with your spouse’s mother.
Do respect her
You don’t have to like her but you should respect her. You don’t have to go shopping with her, invite her to dinner or talk to her on the phone, but show her respect when you come into contact with her.
Do demand respect from her
Express your feelings to her regarding her treatment of you. Let her know her bad attitude is unacceptable and you will not tolerate it.
Do share your feelings with your spouse regarding the unfair treatment from his or her mother
You should let your spouse know how your mother-in-law mistreats you when the behavior starts. Be considerate when speaking to your spouse about their mother, after all, she is your spouse’s mother.
Don’t bad mouth her to your kids or family members
This causes confusion which can lead to arguments and discord in your marriage. It can also cause your children to disrespect their grandmother.
Don’t allow her to run your house
Be firm when she gives unsolicited advice or disagrees with your decisions regarding your marriage and/or children. Ultimately, you and your spouse are responsible for your marriage and your children.
Don’t worry if your mother-in-law does not like you
You are not married to her. She may pop in and out of your life, but she is not the center of your marriage. If you never take any of her advice, do learn one thing; how not to treat your future son or daughter-in-law.
Do you have a mother-in-law that disrespects you? How do you deal with her?