4 Ways to Keep Date Night Fresh and Alive

It is often said to make time for date night within your marriage. Go out and spend some alone time with each other. I totally agree.  I encourage you to get alone time with your spouse. Hire a baby sitter or pack the kids up and take them to grandma’s house for the afternoon.

Even with date night, keep it fresh. Think of things to do that you have never done before. If you go out for date night once a month, take turns planning the evening, giving each spouse a chance to be surprised. Alternatively, plan your date night together and each of you plan a small surprise for the other person.

Anything can become mundane.

Yes, even date night. It’s up to you to put a spark in there and keep things fresh. Do it for each other. Do it for your marriage. Even the kids will benefit when mommy and daddy are feeling refreshed and alive. If you don’t know what to do for date night, sit down together and talk about it. If spontaneity works for you marriage go for it or maybe your surprise is that you are willing to be spontaneous.

Become tourists in your own area.

How many of us have never visited the historical sites in our own backyards? Just last week my husband and I took the day and travelled around our local area. We traveled about an hour away from home to Annapolis, Maryland. We saw the Naval Academy and the historic center of the city. It was beautiful. There were locals and tourists everywhere just enjoying the day. We fit right in, we were locals looking like tourists with our camera taking pictures of everything. After Annapolis, we went to Old Town Alexandria in Northern Virginia. We hadn’t walked around Old Town in years.

Money was not a factor. The only thing the day cost us was time and a few dollars for gas. Don’t let money be an excuse for not spending time together. There are many things you can do with your mate that will cost big money. Still and yet, many things you can do are low cost to no cost.

Whether it’s an afternoon out or an evening in, date night is fun night. Use this time to enjoy each other. Serious discussions can wait. If you made an effort to clear your schedules, get a sitter, and plan your time together. Also, make an effort to enjoy each other – no pouting, getting annoyed or giving the silent/quiet treatment. Don’t waste your time on such things that will spoil the night.

Keep yourself together.

In our house, we have a rule. No one gets mad on vacation. Keep yourself together. We are not paying our money to take five people on vacation for somebody to be mad. Put some controls on your emotions. We could have stayed at home and been mad. Use this philosophy when it comes to date night. You don’t want to be mad at each other period, yet it does happen, but not on date night. On date night, get yourself together and have a good time.

Make the effort. Keep it fresh.

Find excitement in the challenge to do something new, different or perhaps something you haven’t done in a long time. Take a dance class – we did ballroom dancing and laughed through the whole thing. Neither one of us are dancers but it was still fun. Go to the farmer’s market together, you may find some new family favorites – we get a sweet potato pie that my husband thinks is the best.

1. Spend as much or as little money as your budget allows.
2. Get excited about being together.
3. Put some spice into things and surprise each other. Keep it fresh.
4. Plan to have a good time. Get your creative juices flowing.

BMWK- Take this on as a challenge. What can you come up with, plan and execute for a date night surprise?