When I took my wedding vows before God, I meant every word. I plan to love, honor and respect my husband until death parts us. I know he meant them, too. The vows we make, before God and the people we love most, serve as a spoken promise to each other. You can even call them rules, really. It’s like we are saying, “these are the rules we plan to play by so this thing can work.”
As the years have gone by, my husband and I have had many conversations about expectations, our family vision, raising our children, and even our personal dreams. We’ve become a bit flexible on rules that once mattered a lot, and life has thrown a few curve balls our way, forcing us to establish new rules we didn’t know we needed. We’ve managed pretty well, though—set on finding a way to be flexible and push through all the unexpected things life can throw our way.
But with the wedding vows, and all the discussions that followed them, there are still some rules we follow that are unspoken. These are the rules that are rooted in our personal values, and we have been able to follow them with ease. For us, they work. And, oddly enough, despite not needing to talk about this stuff, these rules are at the core of what makes our marriage work.
Here are 9 unspoken rules about marriage. I hope you are able to determine what your unspoken rules are and I hope they serve your marriage well.
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