Big businesses already know this secret. Now let’s put it to work in your marriage. The power is real. With husband and wife pulling in the same direction you get to where you are going much more quickly.
You also get there with greater ease. You are happier and more fulfilled. Now that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy, however, it will be easier when you have agreement.
Lay down “your way” and pick up “our way”
There is non-biblical and biblical evidence that supports there being great power in your coming together in agreement. Let’s look at both.
From a biblical perspective we see in Scripture things like, “if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:19-20. It can be seen again in Romans 12:16 where we are encouraged to live in harmony with one another.
From a non-biblical standpoint we have heard that there is strength in numbers. We see it in businesses. Companies emphasize their mission or motto and expect employees to go along with it.
Let the boss find out an employee does not agree with or support the mission of the company and see how quickly this person gets fired. Even businesses understand the power of agreement. They know a house divided against itself will not stand.
Now let’s get this power working in our marriages. Merriam-Webster defines agreement as harmony of opinion, action, or character. The word harmony indicates that your opinions, actions and character don’t have to be exactly the same.
After all, you are two unique individuals. What it means is that your opinions, actions, and character support the mission of your marriage. By choice, these areas of your life come into agreement.
How do you enact this power:
- When it comes to marriage move away from self-centered thoughts and towards thoughts that strongly support the both of you. It’s the “same team” approach.
- Enter conversations listening for what you agree with rather than what you don’t. Come off the defensive and open your heart to your mate’s ideas.
- Recognize you can have differing opinions and still agree on the best way to do something for the family. Lay down “your way” and pick up “our way”.
- Stand together on what you are agreeing on. Don’t get off of your goal. Use patience with each other and over the situation.
- Speak out and declare the plans, goals, and purposes you have agreed on in your marriage.
- Get excited over the small victories.
The power of agreement works in your marriage in every area from raising children to financial planning. There are no limits to what the two of you can accomplish together.
Remember, part of the reason you got married was so that you don’t have to go through life alone. Now you have someone there by your side, get together with that person and watch the power of agreement work in your favor.
BMWK, what ways have you seen agreement positively impact your marriage?