by Ayanna Black
I’d written an article a couple month’s back about how our husbands should help boost our confidence after having babies but I think it’s also important to do the same for him. We need to let him know he still has a place in our lives as well.
After having the triplets I had to pour a lot of time and energy into them and pull my appearance back together. But what I didn’t realize is that as much as I wanted his attention and compliments he wanted mine as well. I saw that he’d been working out more and doing a little more to gain my attention. As busy moms or new mothers it’s easy to loose track of things that used to be at the forefront of our mind and some things can get lost in the shuffle of what our everyday lives have become.
One day I read a Facebook status of author Yanni Brown on the topic of relationships and not being a complainer. A man commented that when he comes home it would be nice if his lady gave him a smile and asked how his day was before starting in on him about the many woes of her day.
So I figured I would try that instead of talking about the kids or how tired I was when my husband got home. When he returned home from work that day, I greeted him with a smile and warm hug. “Oh wow I notice the work you’ve been putting in at the gym you look really nice. How was your day today?” I could instantly see a glow come over him. I saw that he was elated and a bit surprised that the everyday routine conversation has changed and it was focused on him today. It was evident that that was something that needed to be done. After that day I made a conscious effort to let him know I appreciated his efforts at home, in the gym and in every other way that he supports the family. I then knew I had to bring something new to the table every day and let him know he still had it!
Letting your man know he still has a place in your life once situations change your relationship will do a world of good in the partnership. It will assure him that he’s still needed and wanted in your world. The bottom line is men want most of the same things we want – they just express it differently. So ladies – let’s give our men a boost of confidence today. Tell him he has a body like Fifty (he may not but it might inspire him to get in the gym if you approach it the right way).
Men: What could your lady do to boost your confidence? Ladies: How have you let your man know he still has it?
Ayanna is a married mom of busy triplets in Chicago. She’s a freelance parenting/marriage and technology blogger. Ayanna and her husband Damion are a featured couple in Ebony Magazine’s “Partner Project.” Ayanna is also the proud owner of ABlackWebDesign.com