Okay, I have to start off by being transparent. When I first heard the term “domestic sexy“, my mind immediately went to the wife (my wife in particular) dressed in a French maid outfit cleaning the house, and…you fill in the blank. I know, I know, I should be ashamed! (I said I was starting off transparent!)
As my mind came back from the gutter, I discovered the phrase “domestic sexy” had nothing to do with my wife or anybody’s wife housecleaning. But it had everything to do with me, and all the other husbands out there.
I was sleeping on “domestic sexy“!
What I also discovered is when we are domestic sexy as a husband we can have the same effect on our wives as the effect I had in my mental trip to the gutter. An effect that can stimulate, excite, and energize our marriages. So you might be thinking what exactly is domestic sexy, and why do I need to be concerned with being domestic sexy?
Throughout my 11-year marriage, I’ve done my best to study my wife and learn her likes, dislikes, turn ons, and turn offs. Sometimes (frequently) they change and I have to unlearn or relearn her new likes, dislikes, turn ons, and turn offs! Some of the fellas probably understand what I mean. But through all of that, one thing has consistently come back to me as an almost guaranteed way to energize our relationship. That is being domestic sexy.
What in the world is “domestic sexy“?
We all know what it means to be sexy. Attractive. Exciting. Appealing. Most of us relate the word domestic to work in and around the home or family. Household tasks such as cleaning, yard work, bathing the kids, or preparing meals. These tasks usually fall more on the side of the wife than the husband.
When a husband is domestic sexy he completes those tasks that his wife normally does, so she doesn’t have to. A domestic sexy husband handles the things that she may be able to do, but may be a little more challenging or undesirable to her such as household repairs, pumping gas, or cleaning the toilets.
So when you combine them, you get a husband who completes those tasks, and in turn is sexy to his wife. That brother is domestic sexy.
Why should I be “domestic sexy“?
What happens when a husband is “domestic sexy“? First (and obvious), things that need to be taken care of around the house are taken care of. But the impact it has is even greater. It affects the emotional, mental and intimate areas of our marriages. A domestic sexy action may be more appealing than flowers, more fulfilling than dinner out, and more relaxing than a back rub. Let’s take a look at the effects.
Mentally your wife knows that she is not in this alone. I have heard stories of wives that say they feel like they are a single mother, due to most of the burden of the domestic duties falling on them. When you are domestic sexy, your wife knows you are there for her and with her. She is secure in the fact that no matter what happens, this man is going to do what is necessary to make sure she is comfortable.
Emotionally your wife feels loved and feels you are truly concerned about her. This isn’t a given in marriage. And even when it is present, we still must say and show it. As a husband, leave no doubt that you love your wife! And remember love is a verb; it is about action. The actions of a domestic sexy husband show he loves his wife.
Intimately your wife knows that she has a strong chest to lay her head on. Although you may be grinding every day to provide for your family, you still have enough inside you to meet your wife’s other needs. She knows when she is tired and falling, you are there to provide rest and to catch her. And she will want to lay her head on you.
Appreciate the “domestic sexy” husband
Many of us husbands are already doing the things mentioned above. For those who are, here is a fist bump, and encouragement to keep it up. For the wives who have domestic sexy husbands, appreciate that brother and encourage him in word and action. I know I make all kinds of mistakes and mess things up, just like many other brothers, but like I said earlier when I am domestic sexy it always invigorates our relationship.
Wives, just think, if being domestic sexy means taking care of business around the house, relieving you of some tasks you typically do, and doing the difficult tasks, then what would a husband who is not domestic sexy look like?
Question: Husbands, are you domestic sexy? If so, how has it affected your marriage? Wives, how does it affect you when your husband does any of the domestic sexy actions discussed?