Who says, “Romance leaves the building when you get married?” Who says, “Sexual relations are boring and dull when you get married?” Listen, you will have what you say and I say it’s time to spice up the night. Are you with me? There are many things you can do to spice up your love life. Here are 3 Marriage Secrets to Spice of the Night to help you get started.
Zing, Flavor, Excitement, Interest, Pizazz – these are all synonyms for the word spice. Choose the one that works for you and work it in your marriage.
1. Let your spouse know what you like.
Create a safe atmosphere and talk about your sexual relationship. Just flowing in the moment is great but if you are doing something that your mate cannot stand, it will kill the mood quickly. If you are blowing in her ear and she doesn’t like that, the mood is lost or she will fake it, pretending everything is alright. Have the talk. Even if it is uncomfortable. The rewards are worth it.
2. Be romantic from the time you get up in the morning.
Build the anticipation throughout the day. Heighten the expectation and excitement so that you both can’t wait to see each other when you get home in the evening. Leave little notes for each other. Text something special. Put the kids to bed early. Building the anticipation and excitement will heighten everything in you. A word of caution – if you build the anticipation, deliver on it. Don’t get mad, get a “head ache”, or fall asleep at the last minute. That’s like waiting all week for a movie to come out because the previews have been so hyped and the movie ends up being a dud. The disappointment is real.
3. Experience sexual relations outside of your bedroom.
Have fun in the bathroom, the living room, or go to a hotel. Many couples can get into the rut of we must wait until it’s dark outside, turn off all the lights and we must be in our bedroom, in our bed. Who made those rules?
Do something that is out of the ordinary for the two of you.
The romantic sexual side of your marriage is for your enjoyment.
Discover what you enjoy together by exploring some new options that you both agree on.
Break the habit of it all by being spontaneous and creative. The title of this article is 3 Marriage Secrets to Spice Up the Night, but really, night time, noon time, day time, any time that is right for you and your mate, that is the right time.
BMWK, Are you going to put any of these ideas into action?