By Tamara Floyd
This very question came up in a conversation between me and a friend. It’s a completely legitimate question, right?
In these economic times, the argument can go both ways.
Married couples have (or should have) the privilege of guilt-free unprotected sex. Sex is for enjoyment but its main biological purpose is procreation. Some couples seem to have all their ducks in a row and will welcome a baby at anytime with open arms. Others have or have had trouble conceiving; a healthy pregnancy and infant would be a great joy.
But many couples are practicing family planning techniques for different reasons. Maybe they’re focused on their careers or education. Maybe the couple has made the mutual decision that a family of two is plenty. Regardless of the reason, a unplanned pregnancy could add strain to any happy marriage. For these couples they may be so terrified of having a bundle of joy. A night of carelessness can lead to a month of worry until the cycle comes.
It’s easy to say parenthood shouldn’t be feared by committed individuals. But the truth is a child introduces a new dynamic that many relationships nonetheless many marriage don’t survive. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not one of those people who thinks a child will ruin a good relationship. There is an amount of growing that any relationship most endure before introducing such dynamics. I understand that in this day and time there are many blended families; children come along with the package. There is still a huge amount of thought and planning that goes into adding a newborn to the equation.
Weigh in on this topic. Is there a such thing as a pregnancy scare for married couples?
Tamara L. Floyd is a branding, media relations and product ambassador. She’s been married to her husband, Ben, for five years and they now are embarking on their newest lifetime commitment of parenthood in the fall. Floyd is also the creator of www.naturalhairrules.com, a site dedicated to encouraging others to be who they are naturally by nurturing themselves from the inside out.