So you’ve met a great man online, but he lives thousands of miles away. You call, text, and FaceTime every day and he’s everything you want in man. You make plans to see him and he insists that you stay at his place (to save you money, of course). You have a great time, and he tells you that he misses you already once you get on the plane to go home.
Now that you’re at home, you can’t help but wonder, is this a real relationship? Let me give you 3 undeniable signs your man isn’t interested in anything more than a long distance booty call.
Sign #1: When you were together, things were hot and heavy, but now he is M.I.A.
He stopped initiating texts and phone calls. He was blowing up your phone before your great weekend together, but now, days will go by before you’ll hear from him. When you finally track him down, he tells you he has been traveling for business and is super busy at work.
This man’s nighttime thoughts did not match his daytime thoughts about you. You can always tell a man’s real intentions for you by his consistent actions.
Sign #2: He never wants you to travel to see him (or he if he does, he doesn’t take you around his family or friends)
He says all the right things that make you feel he is an honest, good guy. He’s told you some deep things about himself and his past when you didn’t even ask him to share and so you’re thinking he doesn’t have anything to hide.
But talk is cheap, honey! If your man won’t bring you into his inner world, chances are your boyfriend is not single! It’s easy to create a double life with no accountability if you never get to see him around his stomping grounds. You should be very suspicious if your man hasn’t told any of his friends or family about you.
Sign #3: He never talks about the future
Long distance relationships are challenging because you have to invest a lot of time and money to get to know each other. So, before you spend one more minute, make sure your man has a plan for the future.
Time takes on a whole new meaning when you’re living far away from each other. So if he can’t tell you when he’s going to call you or what you’re going to do one week away (much less one year away!) he may not be serious about anything other than a hookup.
Don’t ignore the signs, sisters! If you haven’t met at least one of his friends, you don’t talk about anything other than sex, and there’s no real plan to end the distance, your long distance relationship is really just an expensive booty call!
You deserve more than that.
BMWK: What other advice would you give to someone in a long distance relationship?