A few weeks ago I spoke on a panel addressing dating, relationships, and all of the craziness that comes along with love. I thought I was prepared to address every possible question, but when someone asked me what were the things I wish I knew before I got engaged, it took me a moment to gather my thoughts. I hadn't thought about that before, but there were a plethora of things … [Read more...]
Wake Up! 7 Signs He’s Stringing You Along
You have off-the-charts chemistry and he says he's never felt a connection like this with anyone else before. Maybe you've been dating for a while, but you don't know where you stand with him. Does he want something serious? Is he just moving slow? Or is he stringing you along? You should be excited that this super fine, successful man is pursuing you. So why do you feel uneasy … [Read more...]
7 Mistakes Single Christian Men Make With Relationships
Where are all the good women? This is a common question many single Christian men ask. Many are frustrated with being overlooked or the fact that they feel it has been too hard to find a "quality woman of God." They hear a lot of women claiming greatness, but it isn't lining up with what they experience. Are Christian women the problem, or are these single Christian men … [Read more...]
SINGLES: 3 Signs You Should Call It Quits in a Relationship
I'm here to help you find and keep the love of your life. So why in the world would I share advice on how to know when to call it quits in a relationship? Because every second you spend with the wrong one is a second you're not with "The One." 3 Signs You Should Call It Quits in a Relationship In this article: You don't share core values or common goals. What's your … [Read more...]
30 Year Old Virgin: Why I’m Waiting For Marriage To Have Sex
Four years ago, I can clearly remember committing to sexual abstinence. Up until my 30th birthday, I was officially a 30-year-old virgin. While this may be shocking for some, I know A LOT of women were in the same boat with me. I struggled with sharing my story, because of people's doubt and disbelief. Then it dawned on me that I'd be remiss not to give all the glory to God for … [Read more...]
7 Clapbacks to Use When a Man Asks You “Why Are You Single?”
You finally put yourself back out there. You mustered up the courage to swipe right on Tinder. And after a few text messages he asks the dreaded question: "So why is a woman like you still single?" You start typing a response but then freeze. You've been single a long time. You think to yourself, "If I tell him why I'm still single after all these years, he might think … [Read more...]
Finally Boo’d Up: Are You Scared of Messing It Up?
You're finally boo'd up and you're singing that new Ella Mai song: "Feelings, so deep in my feelings No, this ain't really like me Can't control my anxiety Feeling, like I'm touching the ceiling When I'm with you I can't breathe Boy, you do something to me." This man could be The One! He takes your breath away with his kindness, thoughtfulness and sincerity. … [Read more...]
Best Dating Advice? These 12 Made Our List!
Well, it's the last month of 2017. For many singles, the year has been nothing but a roller coaster ride of crazy! Whether you've been hooked up through a mutual friend, swiped your way through Tinder, or took a chance on a co-worker, you have yet to meet your soulmate. If you find yourself at a loss when it comes to the dating scene, help is on the way. Recently, we posed a … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Make Dating Fun Again That Actually Work
Do you dread dating because you're bored with the kinds of men you meet? Or are you suffering from burn-out and the thought of getting dressed up just to be disappointed makes you feel like you're wasting time when you could be getting work done? You might even feel bitter about the dating scene because it feels like men don't want to court you--they're rushing to sleep with … [Read more...]
2 Lessons About Sex You Probably Missed From Insecure Season 2
We just witnessed another heart wrenching season finale of Insecure on HBO. Season 2 was all about the messy middle of these characters’ transition from the relationships they once knew into an uncertain future, and it made for really good TV that was often uncomfortable to watch. The struggle is real for Issa, Molly, Lawrence and, it seems, for the millions of singles who … [Read more...]
Should I Keep Dating My Young Lady or Find Someone Older?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 35 years old and I am dating a 26-year young lady who has no job, but she is full of ideas. My fear is that she will rely on me. I am also fearful that about what society will say about the age gap between us. She looks younger than her age and I look more mature than her. Should I Continue Dating my Young Lady or Find Someone Older? Is It Better to … [Read more...]
Ladies: 3 Signs You May Have Already Met Your Perfect Match and You Don’t Even Know It
Where are all the good men? If you're a smart, successful, marriage-minded sista, and you've found yourself asking that question out of frustration, I have some good news. According to some experts, once a woman turns 30, there's a 70% chance she's already met the love of her life. Your future husband could be a former classmate, co-worker, or someone you bumped into on your … [Read more...]
8 Old School Ways to Meet People
Most singles have a sincere desire to be in a committed monogamous relationship. However connecting with the right person in 2017 can be challenging, especially in the real world. With the number of dating apps available, having someone spend their evenings swiping right to left, and constantly viewing profiles on dating websites can cause Online Dating Fatigue (yes, its a real … [Read more...]
5 Lessons You Must Learn From Your Bad Relationships, If You Want to Move On
"You know, looking back, I'm so glad he broke up with me!" she exclaimed. It was our last session, and my client was reflecting over everything she'd learned in just a few weeks of working together. She'd gone from no dates in 5 years, to 3 dates in one month! The biggest secret to her dating success was that she'd discovered how to learn the lessons from her past … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Hear When He Says, “We’re Just Friends” that Lead to Heartbreak
You are seriously dating a man (at least you think it's serious because you are giving him all of your time), but he tells you that you are just friends. What does this mean? Most importantly, what do you hear when he says this? (READ: What a Man Really Means When He Says He Just Wants To Be “Friends”) Most communication breakdowns happen between what a person says and what … [Read more...]