It was at the age of 12 that I first heard the term, “one night stand.” And, my immediate reaction was, “Ewww, why would anyone do that?” And, even now I am still responding the same. My wife and I, on one chill Sunday evening, decided to rent the movie, “About Last Night”, starring Kevin Hart. I am a Kevin Hart fan so despite hearing how overly sexual it was; I wanted to see it for myself.
Well, they were wrong. It actually surpasses overly sexual. The entire movie was centered on a one-night stand. I asked my wife, “Why do people work backwards from having sex as complete strangers to then wanting to see if the relationship has potential for the future”? She then responded to me saying, “Because they don’t have the revelation of their value as a created being of God.”
I was listening to the song, “Stay With Me” by Sam Smith, and in it he sings, “Guess it’s true, I’m not good at a one-night stand, But I still need love ‘cause I’m just a man.” The first time I heard this song in the car, tears began to form in my eyes. I immediately heard God say to me, “I didn’t create my children for one night stands, I created them for covenant.”
It breaks the heart of God to see His children settle for the artificial love and temporary satisfaction that comes from having sex with a stranger or someone outside of marriage. Its not just a physical act, but its also an emotional act. Our culture today sees one night stands as adventurous, or enjoying life while you can, but it goes much deeper than that. You were created for so much more.
We, as the creation of God, were made for covenant relationships. We were made for relationships that last a lifetime. We were made to be valued, honored, and respected. The person who is committed to earn your mind and body by waiting for you until marriage is the one that deserves it. This lifestyle is very dangerous, and most likely will end in regret. But, there is freedom in Christ. Turn to God for help for He desires to reveal how much He loves and values you for who you are.