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Why I’m NOT Teaching My Kids That They Have to Go to College

When I think back to the day I graduated college, it was one of the happiest days of my life. I felt a sense of accomplishment—like I had really made it…not only graduated with a four year degree, but graduated into official adulthood. I knew that with my degree I was going to find a great paying job, buy a car, and move into my own apartment. I knew that with my degree I had made my parents proud because they didn’t go to college, and they wanted their children to have that experience they never did. I just knew that the sky was the limit. I was ready for whatever the world had to offer me…except the student loan bills that started popping up in my mailbox, and when the only job I could find was through a temp agency, and when the only car I could afford was a ’93 Dodge Colt hatchback. Or even when I had to live with my sister and her family for almost two years after I graduated because I couldn’t afford a place of my own.

Unlike some of my friends I went to school with, my parents couldn’t afford to put me through school…or my other six siblings. So I had to take out student loans…a lot of them! I’m still paying on some of those loans today, which kills me because as the picture states…I’m not even using the degree to which these loans are paying for. In addition, I studied Biology and ended up working as a professional in Human Resources. But I know I’m not alone because I meet people all of the time that are not working in the field for which they spent countless hours in, to get a degree. Was it a waste of time? Not at all. Was it a waste of money? I’d have to say it was considering the interest that I’m paying on it. Don’t get me wrong: I don’t regret the time I spent in college (ok, maybe some of those all-nighters studying for Organic Chemistry exams). I went to two great schools and have formed some amazing friendships from both experiences. What I do regret is not having the necessary tools and information before, during, and after I embarked on my college journey.

What I do regret, are the things that college didn’t teach me; things like how to put together a resume, how to prepare for a job interview, how to budget, how to deal with conflict resolution on the job, how to sell, how to start a business, or even the fact that the ability to get a job doesn’t guarantee the ability to keep that job. I had to learn these things by trial and error, the latter being the hardest lesson that hit home with me. When the Great Recession occurred back in late 2007, little did I know it meant me having to witness several of my friends getting laid off from their jobs (majority of them making close to or over six figures) with no warning. Some of them were out of work for months, even over a year or two. Some of them had college degrees and some of them didn’t. But it didn’t matter because they were all out of work, and a college degree didn’t save their job. This was a wake-up call for me because I knew I never wanted to find myself in that situation. I knew that I would have no control over whether or not my job was snatched right out from under me. It was scary for me, so I know it was scary for all those who lost their jobs during that time period.

Working in HR, I spent a lot of time reviewing resumes…and turning a lot of people down – college degree or not. We always had way more applicants for a position than we had openings. Like me, a lot of candidates automatically assumed that having a degree qualified them for whatever job they applied for. But also like me, they were wrong. Plain and simple: it oftentimes didn’t matter. There’s always been so much emphasis on finishing high school, graduating from college, and getting a job. But what about teaching the students of today the art of entrepreneurship? What about teaching them how to make their own money so that they don’t have to depend on a corporate job that may or may not dump them at the drop of a hat? My school never taught this, but I’m really excited that they are among a host of other schools who are currently teaching their students this valuable information. With the rising cost of tuition, we’d need to be making Oprah money in order to pay for our kids’ college educations in the next thirteen to sixteen years (YIKES!). There are so many additional options including some great online schools which would greatly cut down on cost. So if my kids decide they want to go to college, then I will support them. But if they decide that they want to start their own business (and hire the college grads that enter into the workforce), then I’ll most definitely support that too!

BMWK — Will you teach your children that they need to go to college?

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