My wife and I just celebrated 12 years of marriage. Although we still feel we are learning this marriage thing, to some we are considered marriage veterans. And when asked, we can truly say, we are happily married.
Yes, sweaty palms happen even after the alter
I am not going to act like it’s been easy. Yes, we’ve had some issues. It has been real, and we haven’t always felt this way. For example as I was writing this post, I stopped to ask my wife, “are you happily married?” She paused and looked up for a second before saying, “yes.” Had a brotha sweating for real!
Something amazing happens after the alter as well
But I don’t care what anybody says, marriage is the B.O.M.B.! One reason we can say we are happily married is our embracing and living out a Bible verse we found in the Book of Genesis.
This is now Bone Of My Bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Do you want the B.O.M.B. marriage?
That scripture is not just for our marriage, but your marriage as well. It is a blueprint for not only staying together in marriage, but happily staying together. If this is what you want for your marriage, go ahead, make your marriage the B.O.M.B. by living the same principles.
- Believers. My wife and I are believers. First, we are believers in Jesus Christ and what He has done for us and in our lives. Second, we are believers in one another. My wife is not perfect, and neither am I. However, through our imperfections and mistakes we continue to believe in one another. And we feel secure in that.
- One. We are one. The verse talks about being flesh of my flesh, or one flesh. We take that seriously and live like it. If I do something to hurt my wife, I’m hurting myself. If I do something to make my wife feel good, I’m making myself feel good. We are one, and we do everything we can to preserve our oneness.
- Make love. I am going to be real. I cannot see how a marriage without making love, can survive! I have heard of married folks having sex once or twice per year. Not us! We make love regularly. And staying 100% real, some of those times one of us does so even when not wanting to, just to please the other person. I learned in a marriage retreat that sex is the celebration of connecting spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually. You have to celebrate!
- Best. We truly want the best for each other. My wife is my #1 fan and supporter. Even though she knows everything about me. My faults, my fears, my weak areas. She still wants the best for me and does what she can to make it happen. And I am the same with her. If you want a B.O.M.B. marriage, work for the best of everything in each other’s lives.
BMWK – What will you do in order to be happily married?