Not all married women behave like a mature wife. Some of them still act childish and don’t realize they are acting like one. But, these women only need some advice and enlightenment, so they would come to their senses and start behaving maturely. Here, I will tell you how I transformed from being a childish partner to a mature wife.
How I Transformed to Become a Mature Wife
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Talking Like A Child
When I was a child, I talked like a child. I would disrespect my husband by saying anything I wanted towards him. I had a smart mouth and would curse at him whenever I was mad. I would also purposely use words I knew would hurt him.
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. ~1 Corinthians 13:11
Thinking Like A Child
When I was a child, I thought like a child. I thought I was supposed to get my way all the time and I was supposed to have whatever I wanted whenever I wanted however I wanted. I thought if my husband didn’t buy me gifts all the time, he didn’t love me. I thought if I wasn’t getting constant attention, my husband no longer wanted me.
Reasoning Like A Child
When I was a child, I reasoned like a child. I reasoned I could treat my husband the way I saw others treat their husbands, which wasn’t always good. I reasoned I didn’t need to submit to my husband because I was a strong woman and would bow down to no man. I reasoned my kids came first, then me, and him. I reasoned I didn’t need to show my husband any appreciation for anything because he knew I did appreciate him.
How I Came to My Senses
One day, the Spirit made me examine myself and became my teacher. It was like parts of my marriage were played back to me that made me feel awful about my treatment towards my husband. I had to grow up and become a woman. I suddenly became spiritually mature.
- When I matured, I apologized to my husband for the way I talked to him.
- When I matured, I began to use my words to encourage and uplift my husband.
- When I matured, I began speaking good things about him and our marriage.
When I matured, I started changing the way I thought. I started to think of my husband’s wants and needs. I started to think of all the ways my husband shows his love towards me, by making sure the bills were paid, the kids were taken care of, I was taken care of, my car was maintained, and many other ways I didn’t pay attention to.
When I matured, I started to reason I needed to be a better wife, so we can become a better couple too. I reasoned the Bible could tell me how to be a wife and discovered I had the order of the household wrong. I reasoned not only did I need to show my appreciation to my husband, but he also needed to know I did appreciate all that he did for me and my kids.
Listen to how Devale Ellis talks about his wife’s support during one of the darkest periods in his life:
My spirituality made me realize I was acting childish all along and finally had to behave like a mature wife. So, I had to stop talking, thinking, and reasoning like a child if I wanted to stay in my marriage and build a stronger relationship with my husband. I had to put away those childish things and grow up to become the wife that my husband needs and the wife that God called me to be.
BMWK ladies, have you put away your childish things? Tell us in the comments section below!
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Editor’s Note: This post was originally published on January 25, 2017, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.
