You’ll never forget how you felt when you first met. You could hardly catch your breath, your heart pounding in your chest, your pulse racing. And the sex! It was amazing, explosive, mind-blowing. It was everything the movies, the music, and your fantasies said that true love would be: intense, hot, exciting, crazy. At least in the beginning. Until you begin to realize that crazy love has nothing to do with love, but is all about the crazy. What began as fire and desire is now cold and bitter regret. Excitement becomes anxiety. Passion becomes anger. Spontaneity becomes unreliability. You’ve fallen victim to one of the most dangerous—and most often overlooked—signs of an unhealthy relationship: drama.
While most people tend to associate drama in relationships with women, it’s a mistake to buy into the myth that choosing drama is a female thing. Like drama queens, drama kings inspire strong emotions, which can initially pass as intoxicating passion, sexual chemistry and almost mystical compatibility, but ultimately spirals into an endless cycle of chaotic disruption, leaving nothing but destruction in its wake. Both drama kings and drama queens use seduction, bullying, victimhood and blaming as weapons of manipulation, keeping you dizzy and disoriented on a roller coaster of constant confusion, guilt, fear, sexual tension and anxiety—all of which they’ll insist is caused by you, not them. And to the degree that you allow them a place in your life, they will be right.
Read the full article by Zara Green and Alfred Edmond, Jr.: Just Say No to Crazy Love, then come back and tell us what you think.