Many people are under the mistaken impression that the older we get, the less sex drive we have and the less sex we have. Well I am here to tell you that its simply not true. In fact, I believe the older we get the BETTER sex gets and the more we desire to have it. Just check your local listings and you will see a barrage of advertisements promoting sexual activity among older people! Why? Because older people still want to “do it!”
This is where being in a committed relationship comes in handy. Being with someone you love and in a long term relationship opens you up to be able to explore more as well as enjoy a familiarity with your partner. I have heard people say before that the thought of being with the same person forever scares them when it comes to marriage. When you think about it, it’s really beautiful to grow mentally, spiritually and sexually with the same person. Indulging in each other’s desires and fantasies is even more erotic when you are with someone that you know and trust, like your spouse. Trying new things becomes an adventure. And whether you succeed or fail in that adventure it doesn’t matter because you know that your mate is there to stay and there is security in that.
Here are just 5 reasons why sex gets better as you age.
1. Less Body Image Issues.
Whether you work out or not. By the time you hit 40, your body image will become less of an issue for you. At this point in life, you have decided that you are either comfortable with what you have or you are doing something to change it, either way you work with it.
2. Aware of Your Needs.
Once you reach 40, you are more in tune with your body and what it wants and needs. Don’t be afraid to communicate this this to your mate.
3. Experience.
Face it, you’ve been around the block a couple of times by now….even if its with the same mate. You know what to do and how to do it.
4. Changes in the Nest.
For many of us, the kids are grown and gone or older and no longer interested in being underfoot. There is a decrease in scheduled activities. This gives you more time and space to be alone, together.
5. Stability.
The older you get, the more stable you are in all areas. You know who you are and you know what you have. You may still be trying to find your way on a few things, but for the most part you are stable. This stability allows you to remove some of the inhibitions that you may have had when you were younger.
I can honestly say that I am enjoying aging together with my husband. We have known each other since we were in our 20’s. Now, as we move towards our 50’s, we find much humor in the changes that inevitably happen everyone over time. I am not knocking consensual sex in any adult age group. I am just saying that like a fine wine, and in the right circumstances… It only gets better with time.
BMWK – do you agree that sex gets better after 40?
I believe that is true I just haven’t had the opportunity to experience it. My wife sex drive has plummeted severely so sex is maybe once a week. I prefer a whole lot more especially since we are empty nesters. She rather do others things to take my mind off what I want…more sex!!! She rather go out to dinner with otger couples, go to different events or excessive shopping. So, yes I do feel sex over 40 could be great if your spouse isn’t holding back on you !!!
I concur with this article. We’re in our mid 40’s but it’s like we’re in our 20’s! We get it in every chance we get and yes we have FT jobs, children, schedules and everything in between. When you make your sex life a priority like everything else in your life you look and feel better, less stress and more bliss. If he’s happy and satisfied he’s going to do everything in his power to make you happier! Communication and compromise is key as well.
Thx for the advice & may God continue to bless you both!