From our newly launched MyCulture.tv comes the original show, “Honey Do The Web Series” hosted by NY Times best-selling author Denene Millner and lifestyle expert Akilah “Execumama” Richards. The show hopes to spark the conversation about the issues wives face with their husbands””and gives men a blueprint for how to get some make their women happy. Episode one titled, “The Manifesto” is below. Enjoy!
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I will make sure to pass this along to OTHER brothas who might benefit.
You know, cause, I mean, A brotha handles his business
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Its good to see the wife’s point of view… This particular clip makes the assumption that “Hubby” isn’t doing his part though. What about when he willfully shares in the homemaking and still lacks her interest in him getting some…..?
You know, I felt the same way though, I’m a woman by the way. My husband does a good share…when I ask him to, or when company is coming… we also don’t have any kids. But he still does frustrate me at times with various things, I want certain things and his participation in them and he just doesn’t seem to take my request seriously. I think that each marriage has to take the fish and spit out the bones. If it’s not the dishes, or homework, what is it for you? One thing they said in the video was that a woman ends her day worn out about whatever tasks she does handle, trying to get enough sleep and planning for the next day. Talk to your woman and see what’s unique to your situation, see what’s she’s thinking about handling before bed time, and chip in. Trust, you’ll get some. LOL, I bet just from watching this you’ll get some, mine would.
This is great advice, BUT my husbands favorite line is that if he does the things that I usually do “I won’t like it and fuss at the way he did it”. Now I do have that problem, but I’ve known that and been changing it, even he will admit that. I’ve also made a huge change which decreased a humongous stressor in my life which helped me get back to the mild version of me. I’m convinced that he’s hanging on to this excuse (which he confessed to me in on heart to heart moment that he’ll probably ‘forget’ about if I ever bring it up). Anyway, any advice for those men….
Absoulutely Awesome!! To the point.Easy instructions.and Bang what your outcome will be BOOM!! Thank you ladies I will make sure he watches this tonight ssssshhhhhhh DO NotDisturb!
Where’d you get your I love my Hubby shirt? I like the way the letters are and I can’t find it on random online sites.
that was too cute, and really good….keep up the good work ladies!! I’m so glad you decided to do this, Ive been saying this for soooo long, why do all the books and magazines, talk about what we need to do………….there is plenty plenty that they can do too!!!
Ladies,a men don’t want a women,to do the same thing,over and over again,i’m just saying…in your next time around with your husband surprise him,put a little more bounce in it,add more spices…husbands it’s alright to be a little freaky with your wife,when the children’s away, the mice will play,you don’t have to wait for bedtime,put her on the table,up against the wall,on the floor,take a drive in the country,visualize that….husbands,keep your wife happy,make her feel like the queen she are,respect her at all time,if she at a level of sadness,lift her back up to happy…then again,if y’all having problem in the bedroom,y’all need to open up the gap in communication…it’s all good if you’re working as a team,with the household chores,but you need to be working as a team in the bedroom department as well…
I think you are overestimating the ability of the male ego to take constructive criticism. If you’ve never had the “honey, I’d like you to try something different” or “This really doesn’t do it for me” conversation, you can’t imagine how difficult it is. Men already like to think they do *everything* right when it comes to their woman, and telling them otherwise is a minefield of potential anger or hurt feelings.
That what wrong with most women now just settling,and accepting…whatever they men have to offer,afraid to speak up…What wrong afraid if you do,he leave you…
Excellent segment! As a relationship coach, I hear these things often from women and rightfully so because it is how most feel. Let me go on record and say right up front that sex should not be rationed or used as a weapon and this is increasing becoming the case. After researching over 12,000 men, this is the dominate issue facing relationship problems and has bypassed money issues based on my research. It is the number one reason men give when questioned about cheating (lack of sex).
There were a lot of good stuff in this segment and men should help his woman and connect. But here is something that must be considered: there are ground rules and most are not willing to put in the work to understand male and feminine energy and how gender role is current developing in this 21st century. Most of these concepts and frustration in this segement are based on how we have been socialize in this new era and the decision most African American family make to live this so-called abundance life based on material gains (keeping up with the jones) among other things instead of creating a great emotionally sound relationship and environment.
This is not to anger anyone but in the African American community, it is increasingly becoming very difficult to find real women because women have become men. She has been socialized in a male dominate model and was trained to excel, get that A in school and taught to be right, that there is no difference in the gender and that she can do just as much or better than men. She can solve and fix her own problems. This means that you are trained to think like men while losing your feminine self.
Men nowadays are simply confused! He will ask for our directions because he knows that if it is not done your way he will get blasted! Im told this everyday by men. But how can women be any other way since this is how she was trained all of her life.
Men tell me every day that they feel there a competitor in his home instead of coming home to a soft landing away from all of the push and pull he experience every day. Things like some white women grabbing their purses when he is in the elevator or being watch and feared by other races even while wearing his suit.
I can go on and on but here is what has to happen. Women have to get by to being intuitive and using her God giving inward power instead of trying to control her environment and be right. Men have to pay attention, understand your world and connect with his woman. However please know this. If your man is loaded with passion and you wont give him any for whatever reason, it will be at the risk of your relationship and this is simply a fact.
I don’t think it is a matter of “rationing” sex. Women are actually physically turned off by husbands who don’t help out. They’re not laying there horny and refusing to have sex. A woman’s libido is intrinsically tied to her emotions. Thus bad mood = not physically/literally in the mood. Men don’t get this because no matter the mood, they are always ready for sex. I always say a man could bury him mom in the morning and still want to have sex that night. For most women, that would be unthinkable. I think that’s what men don’t understand when couples have this conversation. Men and women are wired differently. Sometimes I think it’s a big cosmic joke that we are supposed to work as couples.
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I completely agree with this Res!!! I tried to explain this to my husband a couple of weekends ago but he just had the blank “what are you talking about” face. We have a pretty large family with 5 kids, a dog, and a cat and then you add in work, our schooling, the kids schooling, extra-curricular activities, and the never ending list of chores….I ask for help from him and it isn’t what is needed(i.e. he’ll fold a bag of laundry without separating who it belongs to and folds it so that we have to completely unfold say a pair of jeans to see who they belong to or he’ll wash only his clothes leaving 6 others behind) and when it is finally time to go to bed I have absolutely no interest.
Exactly. What the guys take as “using sex as a weapon”, we understand as a direct consequence of being dissatisfied with something else in the marriage. You know the adage, “if momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy?” Same thing applies here. If your wife won’t have sex with you, more often than not, there’s a good reason. Is she upset about the division of labor? Feeling frozen out of finances? Are you taking your mother’s side against her? Heck, have you been giving her a *reason* to want to get it on? (Men aren’t the only ones who like a little spice, y’know!) Get to the root of the issue — the sex is just the fruit on that tree.
I don’t think it is really a question of rationing sex, inasmuch as if a husband wants more sex and more exciting sex with his wife, there are things that he can to do to make that happen. I find my husband incredibly sexy when he has cleaned up my kitchen or vacuumed the living room. That is because I know that he is concerned with me, and our lives together. He is acknowledging that I have alot on my plate to get done, and he is helping out the team. Would I have sex with him if he did not do those things? Probably, but I can be more enthusiastic if I do not have in the back of my mind that I have to empty the dishwasher.
I author the blog (www.ruleyourwife316.com) which addressed husbands and promotes the things that they should be conscious of and improve upon as husbands. The tagline is “rule your wife with love.”
I understand and agree with many of the issues brought up in the film. I like it when Deneene said things don’t appear by “marriage elves” that was classic. My wife is one of those wive’s where she is diligently attending to “EVERYBODIES’ needs.
But there are two issues that I have with the foundation of why they are doing this show and understand I don’t disagree with the show.
1) The magazine articles that tell them what they should do to please us. Com’on man!
I thought everyone knew that those articles are authored for the purpose of selling magazines not improving marriage. Many of those articles are written by writers who have no skin in the game of marriage. And further more brothers ain’t investing in those publications nor or they reading those articles — y’all are. Stop investing in the publications that aren’t providing good honest information on marriage.
2) I’m not speaking from an opinion, but one of extensive work from my involvement in marriage/relationship coaching. Too many wives believe they have a monopoly on “what’s right” in marriage, when the reality is oftentimes they are just as confused as many of their husbands. Now this episode of the show was about getting some and it’s much deeper than that, but since that is the subject matter, my wife and I have dealt with a rack of clients where the husbands worked, picks the kids up from school, arrrived home and cooks and sleeps in the basement b/c they are getting any.
In the end I pray nothing but success for the show, but let’s stop drawing this dividing lines in the sands of marriage. We all need some work to make our marriage better.
Look if I have to ask for sex or beg for sex I’m getting a divorce. I’m not going to ask you to go cut the grass, I’m not going to ask you to change the tires on the car, or take out the trash or any other things that a Man does. You’ll men do this and when you done paint her toe nails, pay her toe nails and curl her hair once you finish. I’m not bargaining for the booty, nor am I going with out for too long either. I think you all better get a list of things I do and You do, stick to them and I’ll get you drunk when I want some.