It’s Friday and she is going away with the girls for the entire weekend! I’m thinking to myself…Oh it’s about to go down!!! She gives me a hug and a kiss and says “I love you!” and walks out the door. Suddenly the ceiling opens up, the sun begins to shine in, and I begin jamming in my head to the beats of the HBCU marching band. I’m high stepping! I’m playing air drums! Well…maybe I’m exaggerating because there is no band, just my Pandora station on high; but let me enjoy it because guess what….I GOT THE HOUSE AND WEEKEND TO MYSELF!! Now if I can just figure out what to do next….hmmmm!?
Friday Night
Maybe I will go to the bar, or a lounge or club with some of my boys. By the time I even get my thoughts together it’s like 8:00pm though and I’ve already yawned twice and suddenly that beer in the fridge and the basketball game on TV seems more and more appealing. Now instead of getting dressed for a night out on the town now, I’m sitting on my favorite part of the couch with some basketball shorts and a t-shirt on, watching the playoffs. Then suddenly I open my eyes just to realize that it’s midnight and I missed the entire second half. Dag! So I just roll over and stay asleep. Sounds exciting doesn’t it?
Well don’t judge me because guess what…I still GOT THE HOUSE AND WEEKEND TO MYSELF!
Saturday Morning
Okay Saturday morning comes and I can’t go out like a sucker because I fell asleep last night. I can’t get the weekend to myself and not go into man mode and go hit the streets….or can I? Okay so I wake up and get in a quick workout so I can make sure I’ve got some swagger for when I make my grand appearance back on the scene today. Although my intention isn’t to find another woman I should at least be able to turn a head or two shouldn’t I? Okay so I’m back from the gym and as I walk into the house I realize the yard looks a mess. My woman has been asking me to tend to it for weeks. Okay I have the entire day to myself so I might as well go ahead and take care of the yard…oh and while I’m at it I’ll put those curtains up that she has been bugging me about for a while now too. Since I’m already in the zone though let me turn this music up and vacuum this house. I hope you didn’t catch me singing and dancing to that old school Temptations song that came on Pandora while I was getting it in. Shhhhh…don’t tell anyone, I only do it when I GOT THE HOUSE AND WEEKEND TO MYSELF!
Saturday Night
Whew… now I’m a little tired and I think a nap is in order before I have my exciting evening and night out on the town! I wake and WOW it’s already like 7:00 pm and I’m hungry so let me order a pizza or something. It’s my guilty pleasure because the wife loves to cook the healthy stuff! Doorbell rings…pizza gets eaten…now I’m full. I call my friends up and they say meet them out at 10:00pm. Remember I’m full though and my bed time is usually 11:00pm so yeah you guessed it…9:15 hits and I send out a text saying… “Y’all have fun guys; I’m not going to make it out tonight.” Another night with me, my pizza, my beer, and my television and you know what…I’m perfectly fine because I GOT THE HOUSE AND WEEKEND TO MYSELF!
Sunday Morning
Sunday morning rolls around and it hits me. I miss my woman! No I don’t miss her cooking and cleaning and doing stuff for me, I miss her presence and her spirit. I miss her touch, her hug, and her kiss. I’m even hoping that she ends up coming home a little early. I thought that I would have the most exciting weekend ever, but really I just enjoyed some time to myself and ultimately realized that I miss my best friend, my wife.
So what’s my point? My point is that as men we need our space and our time to have no pressure or obligations. When you leave for the weekend instead of thinking that we are out partying or looking for other women, just realize that most times we are just enjoying the time alone, with our beer, on our couch, watching the game. The most important thing to remember though is that at the end of the day we miss y’all! All we care about is that WE GOT THAT HOUSE AND THE WEEKEND TO OURSELVES!
P.S. Note that if you want to get something done around the house your best bet might be to just leave us alone for the weekend. You might come back to a renovated house! HA
BMWK: Get involved in the conversation….what are some things that you enjoy about having the house to yourself?
This was hysterical but it was also very sweet! Sharing with my husband now. I’m sure he can relate!
Love it Troy!!!!
Thanks LaToya and Sheree for reading and commenting on my article! It’s funny how simple we are even when we try to be exciting! The couch is better than being front row at the event! HA! Please check out more of my work by liking my Facebook page at http://www.thefacebook.com/xklusivethoughts
This is mostly true but on that night that we actually talk to our friends and they’re going out, we’re going out too. What usually happens is, you call your boys and nobody is doing anything or they are all out with their girls and you end up still in the house in front of the TV.
As a happily married man who absolutely loves his wife I truly enjoyed this article. I wouldn’t trade being married for being single for a gazillion dollars. Its refreshing to hear other men speak the truth about how we feel about our wives. Kudos to you Troy! You da man!
Thanks Michael and Kevin. I hope the ladies see that we arent always up to no good and when the relationship is healthy we actually do miss them when they are away. Im glad you enjoyed the read!
I went out of town for a family wedding. Hubby called me everyday and had dinner waiting when I made it off of the road. The house was spotless and I even smelled incense. My daughter was born 9 months later. LOL!!!!!
What HBCU you attend Troy?
Dmaclee that is hilarious!! Krabbo4 I didn’t attend one but all of my friends did. I actually went to a small school called Winthrop University.
Very enjoyable read!
Great article! You are my fantasy! MEANWHILE at the house…wth?
Thanks Crystal and Angi I am glad y’all enjoyed the read! Angi your statement was too funny but if you would like to talk more about it please contact me at [email protected]! Maybe some coaching could help!
Another great article, you really should write your own book, I’d buy it! And I kind of agree with Angi, I wish I could meet a guy that had your qualities and was truly committed to marriage. It is great to see men out here who are really committed to their marriages and truly enjoy being with their wives, gives us single girls some hope, LOL!
Stephanie thank you so much for your kind words! It is definitely on the horizon for me to write a book and I will make sure you know all about it! The more my coaching business grows and stabilizes the sooner I can make that book happen! I do want men to know that it’s okay to love your woman and I want all of you single ladies to know that we all aren’t that bad!! Thanks for all of your support!
Awesome article! And I’ve done this myself as a wife the hubby’s playing poker with the guys and the kids are gone for the weekend. Calling my girls which I don’t get to see as often as I like trying to make plans. By the time its time to get dressed Im to worn out from all the other things I did earlier during the day (laundry, grocery store, full cleaning of the house). After all that all I want to do is turn on some soft NeoSoul/Jazz, keep the TV off, grab a good book and enjoy the peacefulness.