One of the most important qualities that men look for in women is support, or what we would affectionately call “having our back.” We ask her to pick us up when we are down, to be our friend and our confidant, to be strong where we are weak. Sometimes as men, though, I believe we forget that we can leave our women empty in the support department. While they are busy being everything to everyone, sometimes they are left thinking “what about me?” Support comes in different forms and means different things to different people, but here are a few ways that we can support our women better.
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A lot of this advice goes without saying. If a woman has a husband who is NOT doing all of these things then she’s wasting her time in that marriage. Men today KNOW they have to be supportive. That is NOT an option in a marriage. I don’t work but my husband still does housework, helps with the kids, cooks and whatever needs to be done. Back in the day, women ALLOWED their husband to bring home a paycheck and then be done with it. A person will only do what you let them. I will not nor will I ever be passive aggressive in my marriage. If something needs to be said, I say it. Period.
I am glad to hear that you believe in direct communication instead of passive aggressive behavior. More things get solved that way. Thanks for reading!
I wouldn’t say that a woman is wasting her time if her husband is not already doing these things. I love my wife of 9yrs. dearly but I would be untruthful if I said I was doing all things mentioned. However the reason I read Mr. Troy’s articles are to learn how I can be a better husband to my wife. And the articles are very helpful to me. I’m only saying she’s not wasting her time because I will always try improve what she and I share.
I needed this reminder today!! Thanks, Troy!
Thanks Jackie! I needed it too!
Thank you for this article. I was talking to my wife about how we both never had positive examples of marriage in both our families. Being flexible and adapting is something not all of us are born with, it can be a skill”you pick up along the journey”..Being open to”learn, try and do ” new things helps you grow closer if that’s one of your goals. My word to my wife is”I dont want a “happy marriage” but a healthy one”. tools and resources such as this( my wife gave me this website btw) is just another piece of “life’s bigger picture.. I hope this encourages all who read it..
This is so ture and know it beacuse after 30 years of marriage husband toll me so that he was so grateful to me for hang in through the bad time grateful
Tnx for these bt I don’t knw how m going to make my husband get these…..he is unemlpoyed and at the same time expect me to do everything…I m the point where I think devorce is a solicition, I spoke to him still it’s not working…m sure if he could hear someone it will help.
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