I ran across an interesting article that was in the Examiner. It’s based around 10 research facts on marriage and finding a partner. Some I already knew, some I already figured out and some were new to me so I thought I’d share.
1. Marrying as a teenager is the highest known risk factor for divorce.
2. The most likely way to find a future marriage partner is through an introduction by family, friends, or acquaintances.
4. Women have a significantly better chance of marrying if they do not become single parents before marrying.
6. Living together before marriage has not proved useful as a “trial marriage.”
8. People who are married are more likely to have emotionally and physically satisfying sex lives than single people or those who just live together.
10. For large segments of the population, the risk of divorce is far below fifty percent.
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I agree about living together. Actually, I stayed with my fiance for about a year, and if I could do it all over again, I would have never lived with him before mrriage. However, I did learn some interesting lessons about living with him that I intend to carry over into our permanent lives.
I lived with my fiancé for two years, and we have lived together as a married couple for almost one year. Living as boyfriend/girlfriend and husband/wife were two COMPLETELY different things. It takes a lot more work and patience to get along as spouses than it does to coexist as “roomates”. Although living together before marriage was fun, it did not give an accurate preview of life as a married couple. Do I regret that time? No. But I no longer think that living together is a necessary step before marriage.
I didn’t live with my husband before marrying him and never really understood people who considers that a relationship stage.
I think being introduced by friends, family etc. is a good point because chances are you would have more in common with each other through those mutual connections.
Great comments. I would like to add number 11. The odds of getting married after shacking up decreases greatly the longer you are shacking. LOL. I too agree that asking friends or family to introduce you to someone is a good idea. Sometimes we think we know what type of person we like and repeat finding the same Mr./Mrs. wrong over and over again, plus it lets you know what the person fixing you up thinks of you. I met my hubby through my best friends husband 13 yrs. ago. It even made me appreciate her and her hubby more.