As scary as it might be for some of you, there are going to be moments in your single season when you’re going to have to get uncomfortable.

Last year, I put a quote on my vision board about living outside of your comfort zone. It held me accountable to something that I knew deep down in my heart that I wanted and needed in order to become what God had created me to be, and you know what? I’m still on my way.

There are so many things that we as single adults have to at some point get uncomfortable with. I’ll share that for me personally, facing confrontation with others is not comfortable at all.

Someone is waiting on you to tell your story, to speak up, to take initiative.

I don’t, however, want to feel stagnated in my feelings any longer than I have to. I have to take the necessary steps to be appropriate yet honest with what’s on my mind, whether good or bad.

Getting uncomfortable in your singleness requires you to be brave and being willing to learn in this season.

For some of you, it may be taking initiative to approach someone you’re interested in, break away from that toxic relationship, confront a friend, or finally realize that you have a character flaw that needs work.

God will put you through some situations to show you exactly how you are when the discomfort comes. It’s up to you at that point to retreat to your comfort zone (flesh-led decision) or face change head on (spirit-led decision) even if you don’t know what that change looks like. As the maxim goes, if you want something different, you’ve got to be willing to do something different.

Don’t be afraid to face your challenges in your personal growth.

Let’s say that you have an issue with patience, and you realize that it’s time to change those behaviors associated with being impatient. God will allow you to get tested in patience.

He values patience, for it’s one of the best characteristics that we as believers can enact; it’s also part of who He is. And if we are made in God’s image, then yes, we ought to love and be patient, long suffering with one another as He is with us.

When in the midst of the test, remember God’s word.

For me, it’s being totally open with how I feel. There are times when I feel I’m holding back from what I should say out of fear. But I remember scriptures like 2 Timothy 1:7 that says that God has given me power, love and a sound mind, not fear.

The fear of potential rejection or hurt would keep my mouth shut or move around the topic. It’s uncomfortable for me for sure, but I rather address this personal issue now in my singleness than later down the road when I’m married.

Be aware of your motivation to move out of your comfort zone.

As followers of Christ, we want to pursue the Kingdom first, the One who died for us to set us free. Let God be your true motivator for change because of your love and reverence for Him.

Don’t focus on the concept of a “reward” that you get for good behavior. Remember that your growth is not just about you. There may be people waiting on you to get uncomfortable! Someone is waiting on you to tell your story, to speak up, to take initiative.

Remember the last time that you realized you’ve grown out of an old comfort zone? It was restricting and heavy, but now it seems as if you have more room to move and be who you are. It’s truly liberating to get out of the comfort zone.

The uncomfortable feeling only lasts for a moment, but nobody wants to believe that. When you get over that uncomfortable part, you’ll feel relieved and no longer burdened by what you were holding onto in the comfort zone. As challenging as this year will be for me, it’s been long overdue to break out. Now, are you ready?

Hey BMWK family, what’s your comfort zone in your single season that you want to break out of?