Dr. Buckingham: I believe that I am going through some kind of identity crisis and my marriage is in trouble as a result. My wife and I have been married for over 10 years and I have always had the spotlight on me as a successful businessman. I have made a few million dollars and have appeared on numerous high profile media platforms. In the eyes of many, I would be seen as … [Read more...]
My Boyfriend Turned Into Secret Man: Should I Investigate or Move On?
I am writing you to see if I should continue dating my current guy. We have been together for a few years now and started talking about marriage last year. I was excited about the progress that we were making. Then, all of a sudden, this joker changed up on me. We went from sharing everything including Facebook status and money to sharing nothing. Lately, this joker has … [Read more...]
Should I Commit to Marrying a Woman With Six Children?
I usually do not share my business on social media because people are too judgmental, plus I grew up with the ole school saying, “What happens in my house stays in my house.” However, I am lost and need some guidance. That old saying is not helping me out so I decided to write you. I am going to get straight to the point. Should I Commit to Marrying A Woman With Six … [Read more...]
Should I Forget About Marrying My Girlfriend Due to Her Poor Parenting?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been dating this single young lady for over 14 months now and I am considering marrying her. However, I have one problem with her. She does not treat her children well, especially her 12-year-old son. She is mean as hell to him and appears to have a short temper. I have two sons, one 9 years old and one 13 years old. I am concerned that she is … [Read more...]
Should I Continue to Date Men Who Do Not Meet My Standards?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a 36-year-old, single female and I deal with what I think a lot of successful black women are dealing with - the idea that we have to date down. In other words, settle for less than what we desire in a man. I have been living in the D.C. area since graduating from Howard University. I am from Alabama and have a southern girl mentality. I share that … [Read more...]
Is It Disrespectful For a Married Man to Frequent Strip Clubs?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am living a nightmare in my marriage. I recently learned that my husband has been seeing a stripper on the side. Occasionally, he comes home late, but I do not mind because I know that he goes to dance clubs with his friends sometimes. Recently, he came home around 3 a.m. and was wearing a wristband and smelled like perfume. I asked him where did he … [Read more...]
How Can I Determine If My New Husband Has Abusive Tendencies?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I recently got married and I am learning a lot about my new husband. My sister said that she does not like him and expressed that she feels he is abusive toward me. She said that she witnessed him talking to me in a demeaning way. He does talk to me in a “loud” tone and treats me in a controlling manner. My sister was married to an abusive man and told … [Read more...]
Can a Woman Be Successful at Being a Mother, Wife and Career Professional?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am currently in a marriage that has gotten worse over the past 15 years. I met my husband in college and we were both ambitious. I studied to become a lawyer and he studied to become a sports journalist. We both accomplished our goals. Before we jumped into the workforce we discussed the possibility that I could make more money than him at some point. … [Read more...]
How Do I Cope With My Wife, She Is Addicted to Facebook?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am reaching out to you because I am about to lose my 15-year marriage over Facebook. To make a long story short, my wife has turned into a Facebook Addict. She spends at least three to four hours a day on the damn intranet and does not tend to the kids or me. While our three kids work on their homework and I work around the house, she socializes on … [Read more...]
Can My Cheating, Lying, and Baby-Making Husband Change?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 7 years with 2 girls. My husband cheats and has 2 boys from his affairs. Each time I forgive him and try to get past it. Once caught, he lies unless I show him the evidence; then, he admits it and blames the women for making it easy for him to cheat on me. Sometimes he blames it on his ego. Sometimes he wants favors from the women … [Read more...]
How Can I Tell if My Boyfriend is Insecure or Secure About Our Relationship?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been dating this guy for a few years now and I am wondering if he is right for me. I want to be in a committed relationship and eventually get married one day. We have fun together and like to do a lot of the same things, but he never gives me credit for what I bring to the relationship. He comes across as being confident, but his behavior at … [Read more...]
I Am in Love With a Married Man: How Do I Let Go?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been dealing with a married man for a while and I know its wrong, but we just got caught up. I want to walk away and just let it all go, but I didn't know it would be this hard. I fell in love with him and I don't know how it happened. I don't want to do this anymore. I Am in Love with a Married Man, How Do I Let Go? Please help, Ms. … [Read more...]
Should I Disown My Sister For Cheating With My Husband?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My marriage has been torn apart because of the actions of two people that I love to the moon and back. My husband of 6 years slept with my younger sister. My younger sister came to stay with us after she graduated college. We allowed her to stay with us until she got on her feet. My husband is 42 years old and my sister is 22 years old. You might be … [Read more...]
What Resolutions Should I Adopt to Make My Marriage Thrive in 2018 and Beyond?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 6 years and my marriage has been rocky every since I said I do. My husband and I have problems with communication, intimacy and connecting all together for various personal, interpersonal and family reasons. I love my husband to the moon and back and I want our marriage to thrive, not survive. As we approach the New Year I made … [Read more...]
Why Do Black Men Get So Defensive When I Ask About Their Income?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a successful, black, single woman and I am looking for someone who matches my financial potential. I make six figures and have a good quality of life. Like so many other sisters, I am finding it more and more difficult to meet men who are on my level. I am open to dating men who do not make as much money as I do, but I am not open to dating men who … [Read more...]