Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. He has put me first and treated me like a queen. But I took advantage of that and he is fed up with me. Now that I have realized my wrongs and my bad attitude, he wants a break from me. He says not to contact him and be strong, but I feel like my world has come to an end. I feel like … [Read more...]
My Husband’s Sick Mom is Destroying Our Marriage. What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for five years. Recently, I left our home that we have shared for the last seven years. His mother is living there now that she is ill, but she has been saying hurtful things to me which caused me to leave for the last month. My husband allowed her to say those things to me and never said anything about it. This has … [Read more...]
Did My Husband Cross the Line by Agreeing to Sleep with My Sister So That We Could Have a Baby?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Please help me work through my anger and disappointment with my husband. I married my husband who was also my high school sweet heart. We have been together 10 years and have had problems over the past two years because I recently learned that I could not have children. This has caused us to fight often because my husband told me that he wanted children … [Read more...]
Should I Keep Dating My Young Lady or Find Someone Older?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 35 years old and I am dating a 26-year young lady who has no job, but she is full of ideas. My fear is that she will rely on me. I am also fearful that about what society will say about the age gap between us. She looks younger than her age and I look more mature than her. Should I Continue Dating my Young Lady or Find Someone Older? Is It Better to … [Read more...]
Is Being in a Sexless Marriage Grounds for a Divorce?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been with my husband for 25 years, married for 19. We have three kids (21,18,13). After having my last daughter, something changed with me. I want sex all the time. The problem is, it's like I have to beg my husband for sex. Most of the time it's like I'm begging my own husband for sex. He works two jobs, getting up 5 days a week at 4 o'clock … [Read more...]
Relationship Limbo: Should I Be Patient or Move On If My Man Won’t Commit?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Thank you in advance for considering my advice question! I'm a 34-year-old woman dating a 35-year-old man. We've been together for 2 years and I'm twiddling my thumbs waiting for 1 of 2 things to occur...either he pops the question and/or we finally move in together. We've spoken about marriage, looked at rings, he's asked my dad for my hand (a year … [Read more...]
How Can We Keep Our Marriage Steamy While Parenting?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I are arguing often because of our parental and marital obligations. We both realize that we have to take care of our 3 children, but we are feeling more distant. Our marriage is slowly fading into the wrong direction. We are having trouble balancing our responsibilities. How Can We Keep Our Marriage Steamy While Parenting? Wife and … [Read more...]
My Marriage Has Died: What Can I Do to Resuscitate It?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Where do I begin? I have been married for 19 years and I don't know where my marriage stands! At year 12, my husband was arrested then later sentenced to 10 years! Before his sentence, while out on bail, we both got jobs and lease to purchase a home. The marriage was strong and loving! During his sentence (he did 5 1/2 years) so much happened: I lost … [Read more...]
Single Mother of 3: Am I Worthy of Enough?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I am a 33 year old single mom of 3. I've never been married. I have been abstinent for 6 months now and growing spiritually. It seems like I cannot find anyone to connect with. It's so bad to where I do not even have friends. I'm intelligent, hardworking, attractive, love sports, love family and God. Seems like I am the total package huh? Wrong! I've been … [Read more...]
Help My Wife Left Me! How Can I Become a More Nurturing and Sensitive Husband?
Dr. Buckingham, I feel like I am in hell. I am separated from my wife and do not know how things got so messed up so quickly. She recently moved out with our 10 year old and 14 year old children. I tried my best to be a good father and husband, but my wife always complained about me being insensitive to their needs. I did what I knew how..which was put a roof over their … [Read more...]
Should I Divorce My Wife for My High School Sweetheart?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I was with my high school sweetheart for about 5 years off and on, but we were young and always broke up over childish things, but we always got back together. As a young man, I never looked at being in a relationship like average youngsters. I was really thinking about marriage and who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Well she was who I saw … [Read more...]
Why Do 50% of Marriages End in Divorce?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a 30 year old single female who is very interested in getting married, but I am afraid. Most of my friends have been married and divorced at least once or twice. I believe in marriage and know that God created the marriage institution so that man and woman could live in harmony under his commandants. I have heard different reasons why marriage does … [Read more...]
19 Years Old, Single and Curious: What is a Good Age to Get Married?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I'm 19 years old (not dating), and would like to be married one day. Just out of curiosity, what do you think is a good age for one to get married, and how old do you think is too young? Thank you :) Young and Curious Dear Young and Curious, Thanks for asking such an important, but subjective question. Many people have different views regarding … [Read more...]
I Have Issues! Should I See a Life Coach or Therapist?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am going through a lot in my life and my mind is all over the place. At times I reflect on my miserable childhood and sometimes I focus on moving forward. I read a lot of your articles and know that you are a psychotherapist so I decided to write to you. I want to prosper in my life and not allow my past to haunt me. This sounds simple, but I struggle, … [Read more...]
My Husband Left Me. Should I Take Him Back?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have a complex question for you, but you might have a simple answer. My husband walked out on me after 15 years of marriage. We knew our relationship was in trouble and we sought counseling both inside and outside the church. We are a Christian family and are grounded in our beliefs. I did not believe in divorce, but filed for divorce after my husband … [Read more...]