We’re living in a time when it’s all about you and only you. Through social media we see posts everyday about where YOU are, what YOU’RE doing, what YOU brought, where YOU’RE on vacation this week, what car YOU’RE driving, etc. etc. and with this “all about me” hoopla going on, most folk are thinking only about themselves and that’s including married folk.

See, a lot of us have forgotten what God’s whole purpose for marriage was, which is to serve each other and be each other’s help meet.

“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” – Genesis 2:18

Now I’ve seen some cats actually try to use that line of scripture to say that being a help meet is only one sided from the woman to the man and nothing could be further from the truth. We’re both called to serve and help our spouse but those two words “serve” and “help” are literally curse words in some households nowadays. And that’s one of the many reasons our marriages are going sideways.

The other day I was listening to one of my old school slow jam CD’s and Allyson William’s “Just Call My Name” came on and I was listening to the words:

“Ever had a love, that you could call on when you were in trouble/ever had a love, that comes to you on the double/there’s no need to look no further, I’m waiting here for you”

But the line that REALLY stuck out to me the most was:

“I’ll be there, before the next tear drop falls.”

See…that right there is what being a help meet is all about. Being there for you spouse before the next tear drop falls. Now, most of us are there for our children in that capacity cause trust, if baby girl falls off her bike while her dad watches, bet money he’s running over to her to pick her up and wipe away her tears. And the same for the mother watching her son playing football, because if he gets hit hard enough, it’s gonna take everyone in the stands to keep her from running out on the field to get to her son. And that’s how we should be with our spouses but most of us don’t pay that much attention to our spouse to even know if they’re hurting let alone be there to catch their next tear.

So my challenge for y’all this week, is to try to find a way to be a help to your spouse and then take it one step further and find out what you can do to help your spouse on the daily and bet money you’ll start to see just how strong your marriage can be.

What are some of the ways that you can help your spouse more?