4. You are always in choice

Having the life you want with all the support you want is not easy. Having the life you want and not having support is not easy. Nothing worth pursuing in life is ever easy. However, I’m a firm believer that where there’s a will, there’s a way. We make time and find ways to do the things that really matter to us. And we find excuses not to do the things that don’t. I know several single moms (and “acting” single moms) who are doing amazing things and achieving great goals in their lives. How do they do it? They made the choice.

They made a choice to get or create the support system they needed. They made the choice to design the life they want to have, and not the one that was designed for them. I remember when I interviewed Kym Whitley, and she spoke about how she immediately put together her own village and support system when she made the decision to adopt. We can make an excuse or we can make a choice. But the decision is always ours.

By facing the fact that I’m always in choice, it allowed me to see areas in my marriage where I needed to take responsibility as opposed to adopting new excuses.

5. People are waiting on your gift

I’m not unique in what I do in any stretch of the imagination. So yes, it can be intimidating to decide you’re going to take the plunge and start your own business, especially when there are so many others who are doing the same. But what I realized, is that my message is unique to the people that God has already put in my path to receive it. Just recently, I received two e-mails that confirmed this fact.

One of the e-mails was from someone who had been on my mailing list for the last two years and had never connected with me before. But here is some of what she sent to me:

You’re actually also the one who inspired me to start blogging, LOL. Funny how God uses people and they don’t even know it…your blog (Back when it was “Speak on Faith”) is what led me to you, and your mention of what you referred to as “Spiritual disconnect”, when you decided to leave corporate, really resonated with me. Just seeing where you are now, how far you’ve come, how your platform has grown is so amazing and inspirational to me. Just wanted to let you know.

Wow. This was also confirmation to me that we never know who is watching us and who is being touched by the work that we are doing. So how selfish would it be of us to NOT pursue our purpose, and keep pressing through even when things get a little rough?

The best part about taking all of these steps and carving out time to work on myself, and pursue my dreams and goals? My marriage has never been better. We have so much more to talk about, and are even more on the same page.

BMWK, What one step will you take today to start working on yourself so your marriage can thrive?