Merriam-Webster defines lady as: a woman of refinement and gentle manners.
That might seem like an old-fashioned way to describe yourself, but isn’t that what you would like to be called? I hate hearing women refer to themselves as the “b” word or even “hoe”.
We have to do better if we want better.
If you want a man in your life and are willing to accept one that refers to you in derogatory words and mistreats you just so you can say you have a man, that’s fine.
However, if you want a gentleman, someone to treat you like a lady, you need to think like one and act accordingly.
Dress for the part of a lady because what you wear speaks volumes.
If you want the role of side chick, booty call, hit-n-run then you should dress in a way that reveals most of your body.
A true gentleman will not take you seriously if you are dressed like you are for sale or rent. If you want a gentleman that respects you, you must respect yourself by not showcasing your assets for everyone to see.
A lady knows a gentleman prefers a woman with class who leaves something for him to imagine. She will save the provocative clothes for his private enjoyment.Speak the part of a lady because your words have power.
A lady knows better than to refer to herself as anything other than a lady. She doesn’t call herself the “b” word because she does not want a man referring to her by that word.
A lady chooses her words carefully because according to the Word, she knows her words can speak life or death over situations. She knows that she will have what she speaks and is careful with what comes out of her mouth about herself and about other women as well.
A lady knows a gentleman prefers a woman who speaks well of herself because she will speak well of him. She will build him up with her words, not tear him down.
Act the part of a lady because your actions call attention to yourself.
A lady knows how to carry herself with dignity. She doesn’t call unnecessary attention to herself by acting immature, especially in public. She knows how to handle herself in all situations and can put someone in their place while maintaining her composure.
A lady knows a gentleman prefers a woman that can get with someone when necessary without making a fool out of herself. She will have his back and not embarrass herself or her man.
Remember you attract what you are. If you are trashy and disrespectful, you will attract someone just like that. Then you will believe that you are not worthy to have a man love you and treat you in a special way. There are many gentlemen willing to show you love and respect, but you must think like a lady and act like a lady.
BMWK family, how do recognize a real lady?
Renee says
Awesome advice that really needs to be taken to heart!
LaToya Irving says
Thanks Renee!
Sharron M says
Thanks for writing such awesone advice! Before I was converted, I was into worldly men. Now that Im a G.L.O.W.(Growing, Loving, Obedient, Woman) the enemy still sends his demons after me but Im still standing on 5 years of celibacy and Im loving it. Yes, I have asked God to send me my Boaz, according to His will!!!
Anonymous says
That’s awesome Sharon!!! God’s got you!
Sharron M says
You are welcome, Anonymous.
rashida says
I have put in my request and believe it is already answered. What I learned and took from this last relationship is that its me i must make myself whole to attract a whole person. I must listen to the flags God is giving me when I ask him. I agree you attract what you are…if you are a half of a person and your thoughts are not pure and that’s what you will get. But if you are whole in Gods Will then that’s what you will get. In on day 3 of my fast. Putting God first and all things will be adding to you according to his will. This time…in staying in line with him
Andrew says
What a well written article that most black females need to follow in order to become a lady and the woman that a good man is looking for. Glad to see that some black women get it and don’t buy into this feminist, manly, disrespectful, attitude acting, and no self respect type of females that a lot of these single mothers has raised. Good article.
LaToya Irving says
Amen Rashida! God will do it!!
LaToya Irving says
Thanks Andrew!!!
Todd says
Awesome; and a gentleman will always be attracted to/recognize and a lady. BUT he treats all women with respect.