Don’t take anyone home for a nightcap.

We see it all the time in wedding-themed romantic comedies. It may seem fun or funny in the movies, but don’t be on either end of a wedding hookup. The emotions of love and maybe a little loneliness may be on the brain, but don’t let that flood your common sense. If the person is attractive and legitimately single, make arrangements for a real date, not a one-nighter.

Do network with the other singles.

If the only person you know at the wedding is the bride or groom, you may have to get to know your pew or table neighbors. Chances are, they have arranged for the singles to sit together, giving you an opportunity to mingle and network with each other. Who knows what can come from it? Put the phone down for a moment and introduce yourself. Opening up to meet new people—even at a wedding—can benefit your career, ministry, or even love life.

Don’t outshine the bride and groom.

The wedding is their day, not yours, to shine. Confirm the dress code and put your ensemble together accordingly. Some weddings throw caution to the wind and do opt for a specific dress code, but the key is to not show up the bride and groom on their special day. This goes especially for the best friends and family members. Style wise, it’s good to keep it classic and comfortable as well so you can move around on the dance floor later.

Don’t feel down and depressed.

Weddings are a time to celebrate love, and though it may serve a reminder that it’s not your wedding, that doesn’t mean it won’t ever happen for you. If you are having a difficult time emotionally when it comes to attending weddings, please reconsider going if you don’t play a role in the party. No need to dwell in a negative mindset at a positive event. The Bible tells us to rejoice with those who rejoice, so put the negative and doubtful thoughts about yourself out the door and be steadfast in hope that there’s enough love for all of us out here.

Do remember to have fun, it’s a wedding!

As a single who’s loved weddings since I was about four years old, I know that weddings can be a lot of fun. Wedding planning can be stressful for the bride and groom, so help them out and have a good time. You may have seen some videos from the reception or a touching message or music at a ceremony. Just like everything else in life, attending a wedding as a single is what you make it. Focus on the celebration, not your relationship status.

Hey BMWK fam, what are your memorable moments from attending a wedding as a single?