"He sounds just like my ex." This is what some domestic violence survivors said about then Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump in a Huffington Post article. Trump's lying, bullying and controlling behaviors during the debates were triggering bad memories of their abusive relationships and they couldn't believe he could even be considered a candidate for the highest … [Read more...]
He Cheated, Lied and Even Fathered a Kid, but Now He Wants to Marry Me. Should I?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I just read a few of your articles and thought God must've sent me in your direction. I am currently dealing with infidelity in my relationship and am having a hard time getting through it. Here's my story. I've been dating my now-fiancé for 2.5 years now. We became exclusive a year ago. I just recently found out he had been cheating on me … [Read more...]
Should I Kick My Boyfriend to the Curb If I Think He’s Cheating Like My Ex-Husband?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Thank you so much for writing these wonderful and helpful articles. I would like to get some advice if possible. I was in a marriage to an emotional abuser and a cheater, which ended in divorce after giving it several chances. I am now dating someone whom I just gave a second chance after I found out he's been calling his baby mama almost everyday and … [Read more...]
Can God Change the Heart of an Abusive Husband?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've just read your article about restoring trust. I am currently separated from my husband for the second time. We've been married for 3 years and in January of 2014 he almost killed me by strangulation. In July of 2014, we attempted to reconcile. However, truthfully there were no boundaries set prior to him coming back home. The weekend leading up to … [Read more...]
I Know He’s Cheating but Should I Marry My Disrespectful Fiancé?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I've been with my fiancé for 3 years now. I'm only 19 and he's 22. We have a baby that's 10 months old. My fiancé cheated on me with another girl throughout my pregnancy so I didn't really enjoy it. I feel like he doesn't take me seriously when I ask him serious things. He never gives me an explanation as to why he cheated. He does not say one word and he … [Read more...]
Am I being Abused in My Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 17 years and blessed with two beautiful girls ages 16 and 14. In the past, my husband has been flirting with workmates, my friends, and any female he met on social media. The funny bit is, whenever I caught him, he would claim it's harmless flirting and there are HIV among other deadly STDs and would apologize and move … [Read more...]
Domestic Violence: Let Your Sisters Know You Have Their Back
When we get married, we all plan on staying married. After all, our vows specifically say that we are in this thing for better or worse. But what happens when the better doesn’t last that long and the “worse” goes beyond anything we ever expected? What happens when we find ourselves in an abusive relationship, and we truly cannot imagine a way out? This is a reality for … [Read more...]