Many women credit themselves as being nurturers, which is a great quality for mothers. But what about as wives and girlfriends? Is the pronouncement "I'm a nurturer by nature" really a woman's appeal to rationalize babying adult males? I purposely cited adult "males" not adult "men." Adult men don't need to be nurtured. Here's why. Nurture Let's begin by defining the term … [Read more...]
Don’t Talk About It, Be About It: Are You a Couple Who Lack Accountability to Each Other?
One of the greatest things about being single is that you are accountable to no one (in terms of romantic relationships). The problem arises when married people sometimes still believe they are accountable to no one. My last few coaching clients have complained of the same thing: Their spouse's lack of accountability. Once you are married, you are accountable to someone … [Read more...]
Changing Our Perspective Can Change Our Relationship
Our view of the world is what we hold to be true. Unfortunately our perceived truths can cause us to be judgmental, jaded, and detached. Over the course of our lives; our perceived truths provide numerous opportunities for us to accumulate a shipyard filled with the carnage from a lifetime of wrecked relationships, friendships, and partnerships. Simply put, our perceptions … [Read more...]
I Am an Over Protective Parent and Not Ashamed to Say It
I am over protective when it comes to my children. That is a fact. I am not ashamed to say it and I don’t care who knows it. I am the mother of 3 sons and 1 daughter. I was just as protective over my sons who are grown now, as I am now with my daughter. I’ve had people express anger towards me over this because they take it personal when I decline invitations on behalf of … [Read more...]
3 Times When “It Just Happened” Isn’t An Acceptable Answer
"It just happened!" Raise your hand if you are tired of hearing these three words yet. Oh no volunteers? Well, keep reading anyway! The more I coach clients this continues to be a consistent theme.... That is, until I break it down! I believe that many of the issues that arise and grow in dating and relationships are rooted in the lack of accountability we take for our actions. … [Read more...]