Becoming a father was one of the most important moments of my life. I didn’t have an active father in my own life, so I didn’t have a full scope of the impact fatherhood would have on my life. But now I can see how fatherhood has blessed my life immeasurably. I can honestly say that when a baby is born, a father is born, and there’s nothing like the unconditional love that a … [Read more...]
Does Sperm Donation Make a Man a Father? Here are 6 Ways to Tell the Difference
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a single parent mother who is struggling to raise my three children, ages 3, 5 and 8. All of my children have the same father, but he does not act like a father to them. He stops by the house to see our children every other month. We argue and fight because I tell my children that they do not have a father. I know that this is not right, but I am … [Read more...]
The Two Lies Fathers Must Stop Telling Themselves
I was utterly blown away at the responses from the 300+ middle school and high school students. I volunteer as a group-leader at a suburban church youth ministry. The speaker asked, “How many you have ever thought about ending it all and committing suicide?” About 100 students’ hands went up. “How many of you cut yourselves?” A third of the hands went up again. The males and … [Read more...]
Be a Father to Your Child; 6 Things You Need to Know
When I first started my job working with teens in the Wellington Park section of SE Washington D.C., I had the bright idea that one of my first assignments for them to do was to complete a family tree. Welp…that idea blew up in my face when the majority of them started saying stuff to me like “I don’t know my dad” or “I never met his side of the family! Mr. Kil, how you gonna … [Read more...]