Dr. Buckingham I have been following you on Black and Married with Kids for sometime now, and I appreciate the advice that you provide to singles and couples. I was hesitant to write you, but I broke down because I am very close to leaving the woman I swore to love forever. My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and I have been dealing with her out of control … [Read more...]
I Despise my Cheating Spouse: Should I Seek Vengeance?
Hello Doctor, I'm writing this out of pain and anger. I've been married since November 2015—only eight short months. My husband and I live in different cities, and the plan was for me to relocate to be with him. During my visits to see him, I noticed he was getting attention from other women. He was receiving text messages from women, and I found out he was visiting them … [Read more...]
What is the Most Effective Parenting Method for Understanding My Teen?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I desperately need some advice. My 14-year-old son is testing me badly by pushing all kinds of boundaries. We argue over whom he should hang around, where he should go and how he should dress. I punish him on a regular basis and tell him that he will comply with my rules as long as he is under my roof. I am responsible for him, and I want to make sure that … [Read more...]
We’re Parents Who Grew Up Without Good Parent Examples; What Do We Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have one young child and a teen, and we are concerned about our parenting skills. We both grew up in single-parent households and did not have the best upbringings. We want to give our children the best, but we are worried that we cannot give what we never had. What tips do you have for two well-intended parents? Thanks in … [Read more...]
Adulterous and Abusive Wife: Do I Have Grounds for a Divorce?
Good afternoon Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I will admit the marriage has been on rocky ground from day 1, with the exception of the birth of our children. My wife has been verbally abusive the majority of the marriage; she yells and screams at our kids and rarely apologizes when wrong. A few years ago, I read a text message my wife wrote to … [Read more...]
I Keep Cheating on my Wife; How Can I Make Myself Stop?
Hey Dr. Buckingham, My name is Craig, and I have cheated on my wife a few times. I really love my wife and family, but I admit I think I have a problem. My wife wants to end our marriage, but I want to do whatever it takes to save what I truly want—my marriage and family! What kind of help do I need? Thanks in advance, Craig Dear Craig, Without knowing exactly what … [Read more...]
People Think My Fiancé is Self-Centered, But is He Bad Enough to Reconsider Marrying?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am dating this guy who appears to be wonderful. He recently proposed to me, and I accepted. We are both successful individuals and are doing well professionally. I noticed that we are somewhat different when it comes to our personalities. I am more introverted, and he is more extroverted. I prefer to take the backseat, and he prefers to be upfront. This … [Read more...]
HELP! My Daughter Just Revealed That My Husband of 17 Years Has Been Cheating On Me
Hello Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 17 years, and we have three very beautiful girls. I thought we were happy until December of this past year when my middle daughter started suspecting him of cheating while I was at work. She started following him, tracking him by his phone and watching his every move (I had no idea this was going on). In January, … [Read more...]
What Does It Mean to Be “Good” in Singleness for a Christian Woman?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My boyfriend and I constantly argue and fight about what it means to be good in singleness. He believes that being good in singleness is about how he conducts himself in church and in the community. I disagree. We have sex on a regular basis, and he does not view this as being problematic. In his mind, he believes he is good in his singleness. Because … [Read more...]
As a Single Man, What is the Best Thing I Can Do to Find a Wife?
Dr. Buckingham, I am a successful young man who wants to have a wife and children in the near future. A few years ago, I relocated from the South to D.C. with the belief I would have better prospects. I am approaching my mid-30s, and I feel discouraged about my prospects. I meet women who appear to be good for me, but things just never work out. I have not been able to … [Read more...]
What Are the Benefits of Professional Premarital Counseling?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I have been dating my fiancé for a few years now, and we are preparing for our marriage. I read a lot of your articles about relationships, and most of them have a common theme. You often recommend people seek professional counseling. I want my marriage to start off on the right foot, but I do not get the counseling thing. My fiancé has some fear and … [Read more...]
He Cheated, Lied and Even Fathered a Kid, but Now He Wants to Marry Me. Should I?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I just read a few of your articles and thought God must've sent me in your direction. I am currently dealing with infidelity in my relationship and am having a hard time getting through it. Here's my story. I've been dating my now-fiancé for 2.5 years now. We became exclusive a year ago. I just recently found out he had been cheating on me … [Read more...]