Are you dating while celibate? You’re not alone! I was recently featured on an episode Lifetime TV’s Laurieann Gibson's Beyond The Spotlight show. Laurieann called me in to help her best friend Stella make empowered choices around dating while celibate. Stella made a vow of celibacy after her last relationship ended a year and half ago so that she could be clear that she was … [Read more...]
What Does It Mean to Be “Good” in Singleness for a Christian Woman?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My boyfriend and I constantly argue and fight about what it means to be good in singleness. He believes that being good in singleness is about how he conducts himself in church and in the community. I disagree. We have sex on a regular basis, and he does not view this as being problematic. In his mind, he believes he is good in his singleness. Because … [Read more...]
Singles! How to Say, “I’m Celibate!” and Not Lose Your Relationship
So, you’ve made the decision to abstain from sex until marriage? Congratulations! You are dating while celibate and you’ve joined many other singles who have made this personal and spiritual choice, including Meagan Good and Tamara Mowry who both decided to become celibate while they were dating. While I celebrate your courage to make this choice, I know you may feel like it’s … [Read more...]