Dear Dr. Buckingham, I'm a young, single, and soulful black male who is attractive according to my female friends. I get a lot of girls’ numbers, but I can never seem to get past the first date. I grew up in a religious household, but other Christian girls won't give me the time of day. I embrace the essence of life and I am a passionate young man. I do not understand what I … [Read more...]
Should I Keep Dating My Young Lady or Find Someone Older?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 35 years old and I am dating a 26-year young lady who has no job, but she is full of ideas. My fear is that she will rely on me. I am also fearful that about what society will say about the age gap between us. She looks younger than her age and I look more mature than her. Should I Continue Dating my Young Lady or Find Someone Older? Is It Better to … [Read more...]
I Admit I’m a S.W.A. (Sister with an Attitude); But How Else Can I Protect Myself from Getting Hurt?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 25-year-old black single female with no children. I am writing you because I am having a hard time bonding with men. I don’t know where to begin. I just do not trust men. My father left when I was 12 after he abused my mother for years, and my two brothers are dogs. I want to be in a relationship, but I am afraid of being hurt. I have tried a … [Read more...]
As a Single Man, What is the Best Thing I Can Do to Find a Wife?
Dr. Buckingham, I am a successful young man who wants to have a wife and children in the near future. A few years ago, I relocated from the South to D.C. with the belief I would have better prospects. I am approaching my mid-30s, and I feel discouraged about my prospects. I meet women who appear to be good for me, but things just never work out. I have not been able to … [Read more...]
What 5 Steps Can a Single Woman Take to Develop Healthy Relationships?
Good afternoon Dr. Buckingham, I have a relationship question to ask you. I am a 34 yr. old single, African American female. I have a master's degree in public administration and work in the public sector. I have done fairly well career-wise, but regarding relationships, I have struggled quite a bit. Due to financial issues, and trying to save to purchase a home, I have been … [Read more...]
How Can I Keep my Relationship Together when Our Communication is so Poor?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I have been engaged for almost a year to a 48 year old man. I am 34. He is from Boston, MA and really does not go up there much. But as of lately, he has visited his family because his dad is ill. We have good communication but he decided to visit this past Friday and told me he was coming back Sunday. He has a child from a previous marriage and he was up … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Is My Man Too Insecure to Marry?
Dear Dr. Buckingham I am writing because I am sick and tired of meeting and falling in love with men who are insecure when it comes to expressing emotions and entering into a relationship. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. I am considering spending the rest of life with him, but I am not sure if he is secure enough for me. He appears to have it all together on … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Why Do Single Men Place Women in Categories?
Dr. Buckingham, I recently met this single guy who told me that I was very attractive, intelligent and down-to-earth. During our conversation he told me that he wanted to get to know me better. Before I could respond, he ran off a list of the different kinds of women that he does not like to interact with or date. He talked about independent women, desperate women, … [Read more...]