I used to be such a no-nonsense person that when people would hurt or disappoint me, I would throw them away. But after a while, I looked around and noticed that I was alone. And I realized that I had to change. In the beginning, I didn’t know how to change because the disappointment had been so great. I slowly began to realize that I was holding onto un-forgiveness and … [Read more...]
Singles; How I Prepared Myself to Be a Wife—and You’ll Never Guess Who Helped
Often times marriage prep would require you to do some kind of soul searching or learning from your elders, who have been married for a long time. But I've come to find out that those are not the only ways. I had no idea that in just a short amount of time I’d be learning about marriage by living with my younger sister. I thought I had it figured out for the most part in … [Read more...]
I Had to Learn How to Forgive, So I Could Get Past the Hurt
One day at bible study my pastor was teaching on how we're called to forgive folk since Christ forgave us. And since I’ve never fully understood that, ya'll know me…I raised my hand like "church folk are always talking that forgiveness stuff like it's SO easy to do. It’s much easier said then done." And my pastor shot back that forgiveness isn't hard to do, it's getting past … [Read more...]
When It Comes to Our Spouses, Why is Forgiveness So Hard
"Ain't asking for forgiveness for my sins..." - Jay Z I wonder, how many of us are asking for forgiveness from our sins? Not only asking for forgiveness from God for things we've done, but asking for forgiveness from our spouses if we've wronged them. Webster defines forgiveness as "to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offense or debt." Did ya'll … [Read more...]