Does your spouse or partner adhere to the "family comes first" philosophy? Read the story of a wife who’s having trouble because her spouse is seemingly forgetting his responsibility as a husband by putting his family first. In this post, I also share my thoughts on how you can peacefully resolve situations like these. Family Comes First | Staying Strong, Understanding … [Read more...]
How Do Kids Suffer in Dysfunctional Marriages?
Dr. Buckingham, I am stuck in between a rock and a hard place in my marriage. My marriage is totally dysfunctional. My husband and I live like we are roommates and try our best to remain sane in our home. However, it is becoming more and more difficult. We are in constant conflict about our finances, parenting, intimacy and family functioning. He accuses me of being … [Read more...]
Is It Disrespectful For a Married Man to Frequent Strip Clubs?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am living a nightmare in my marriage. I recently learned that my husband has been seeing a stripper on the side. Occasionally, he comes home late, but I do not mind because I know that he goes to dance clubs with his friends sometimes. Recently, he came home around 3 a.m. and was wearing a wristband and smelled like perfume. I asked him where did he … [Read more...]
Can My Cheating, Lying, and Baby-Making Husband Change?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 7 years with 2 girls. My husband cheats and has 2 boys from his affairs. Each time I forgive him and try to get past it. Once caught, he lies unless I show him the evidence; then, he admits it and blames the women for making it easy for him to cheat on me. Sometimes he blames it on his ego. Sometimes he wants favors from the women … [Read more...]
Racial Tension is Hurting My Marriage: How Can I Support My Black Husband?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been reading your articles for some time and decided to write because I feel that you are a logical professional who gives good practical guidance. I am a white woman and I am married to a black man. We have been married for ten years and have two wonderful children. I love my children and my husband, but our marriage is in trouble because of the … [Read more...]
Can Two Broken People Make Marriage Work?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and myself have been together 15 years, married 10, with two beautiful children. I have had several emotional affairs, two were sexual.He has caught me every time. In the last two affairs though, I felt done with the marriage. I was the working parent struggling mentally and physically. He did nothing but took care of the kids, no housework, … [Read more...]
Did My Husband Cross the Line by Agreeing to Sleep with My Sister So That We Could Have a Baby?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Please help me work through my anger and disappointment with my husband. I married my husband who was also my high school sweet heart. We have been together 10 years and have had problems over the past two years because I recently learned that I could not have children. This has caused us to fight often because my husband told me that he wanted children … [Read more...]
My Marriage Has Died: What Can I Do to Resuscitate It?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Where do I begin? I have been married for 19 years and I don't know where my marriage stands! At year 12, my husband was arrested then later sentenced to 10 years! Before his sentence, while out on bail, we both got jobs and lease to purchase a home. The marriage was strong and loving! During his sentence (he did 5 1/2 years) so much happened: I lost … [Read more...]
Should I Get Involved In My Friend’s Messy Marriage?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I'm writing on behalf of my friend. She has been married for 8 years and her husband impregnated another woman 2 years ago. She decided to accept the situation and forgave her husband. She recently left to go on vacation only to return to find her husband and the mother of his child in their home. He claimed that they only talk because of this child. … [Read more...]
I Keep Cheating on my Wife; How Can I Make Myself Stop?
Hey Dr. Buckingham, My name is Craig, and I have cheated on my wife a few times. I really love my wife and family, but I admit I think I have a problem. My wife wants to end our marriage, but I want to do whatever it takes to save what I truly want—my marriage and family! What kind of help do I need? Thanks in advance, Craig Dear Craig, Without knowing exactly what … [Read more...]
My Husband Had a Child Outside of Our Relationship, and He Refuses to Let Me Meet Her
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for six years. My husband and I met while on vacation, and it was as if we knew each other for a very long time. Two years into the marriage, I found out he had a daughter, whom he fathered while we were engaged. Mind you, it was a long distance relationship for two years. Since I found out, he has seen his daughter maybe 10 times in … [Read more...]
My Husband Abandoned Me, What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband left me after a big disagreement. But here is the kicker, we were only married for four months and we have a baby together. Now, it has been a year since he left. At the time, he wanted me to kick my cousin and godsister out of our house. I’m from another state, and they were my only close family. I told them that they both had a year to find … [Read more...]
Help…My Mom is Just Plain Rude to My Husband. What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married for four years now. Both my husband and I have been in and out of work, and as a result we lost our home. We moved in with my single, elderly mother. I eventually got a job and my mother told my husband he had to get a job soon or leave her home. Unfortunately, he did not find a job and now resides with his mother. His family has never … [Read more...]
My Husband Impregnated a Hood Rat: Can Our Marriage Survive His Deception?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 20 years. We have two daughters. My husband cheated on me with someone that I believe has low standards (Hood Rat). I found out 4 years ago because she sent me a nasty letter giving me details of their sexual encounters. I was crushed! (The man) who I thought was my best friend had become my enemy, not my husband. He … [Read more...]
No Female Friends for My Husband, Am I Asking Too Much?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 19 years. He has always had women friendships that he has chosen not to share with me. When I find out about these so call friendships he tells me that it is only a friendship. Related: Here are 3 truths he wants to tell you but may not know how! I know deep down in my heart that has not always been the case. … [Read more...]