Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am going through a lot in my life and my mind is all over the place. At times I reflect on my miserable childhood and sometimes I focus on moving forward. I read a lot of your articles and know that you are a psychotherapist so I decided to write to you. I want to prosper in my life and not allow my past to haunt me. This sounds simple, but I struggle, … [Read more...]
How Can African American Males Overcome Thoughts of Failure and Succeed?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a 23-year old African American male and I have been searching for role models who can help me grow and succeed both personally and professionally. I am just starting my career as a computer programmer, but I am so discouraged. I am the only black male in the office and at times I question my abilities. I speak with my father occasionally, but he is a … [Read more...]
Christians, Is Your Spirituality Enough to Conquer Your Dark and Troubled Past?
Dr. Buckingham, I am a 45-year-old recovering alcoholic and drug addict. I have lived a very rough life both in childhood and as an adult. I was physically abused by my father in childhood and was emotionally abused by my ex-wife. Life has not been easy for me, but I refuse to give up. I have become a very spiritual person and have learned the importance of prayer. I … [Read more...]
Don’t Disregard the Message Just Because You Think the Messenger is a Mess
In my favorite book, one of the most influential people that ever walked this earth and continues to make an impact today was once a murderer. St. Paul turned out to be one of the greatest contributors to Christianity ever, and is credited with writing more books in the New Testament of the Bible than any other individual. But before that, he was literally hell bent on … [Read more...]
If You Knew My Story, Would You Walk in My Shoes?
You know who they are: your haters. And although they can actually push you to do better, sometimes, it gets frustrating when it seems like all they want to do is knock you down. They are envious of what you’ve accomplished, when in truth, they have NO IDEA what it took for you to get there. If this is your story, I can relate. Years ago, I was on the other side of that … [Read more...]
6 Ways I Improved My Life in 2012
When the clock struck midnight on January 1, 2012, I declared it a “New year, New me”. I knew that 2012 had to be different, better, more amazing than 2011. I went through an insurmountable amount of stress and anxiety when I was working for my last corporate job & made a decision to never go back to that. At the time, I had a lot of anger and resentment. I knew I needed to … [Read more...]