There are many expectations that come along with being considered a Christian and a husband. When you consider yourself a Christian, then you’re saying that you are a follower of Christ, and that your life is no longer yours, but lived fully for Him. Now, combine that with husband and now you’re saying you’re a Christ following husband that desires to love his wife as Christ has loved her and you.

No man falls in love, proposes, goes through the process of planning a wedding, and then steps up to the altar to commit to one woman for the rest of his life; with the thought of failing her down the road. Failure is not in most men’s vocabulary, because we were created to succeed. But, sometimes failure is necessary in order to see the ramifications of our actions.

When I got married, I vowed to love my wife as Christ loved her, and to die to my desires in order to please her. I have upheld most of the expectations that are expected of a Christian husband. Go to church regularly, provide financially, protect relentlessly, and love her unconditionally. Doesn’t that sound like a good man to you? But, there is one thing that is missing that I myself have failed to do on a consistent basis, that I know my family needs me to do or else I become a stumbling block to them.

I Have Failed My Wife

I have failed my wife in not leading her spiritually by having a consistent time for us to spend time with God together at home. It is a great thing to go to church together, but it gets even better when you have church together in your home. I have recognized we have allowed the busyness of life to overtake those precious moments, that literally affect the spiritual intimacy and health of our marriage. It is our relationship with God that sets the tone for everything else we do as a couple.

There are many ways this can be accomplished whether it be through reading a devotional together, praying and reading the bible together, encouraging one another, or having spiritual date nights.

Your wife needs you not only to be the provider and protector, but also her pastor.

As her pastor you guide your family spiritually leading them by example, and are the guardians of their soul.  This can have the greatest impact upon your families future.

The bible says in Ephesians 5:25-28, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

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Husbands you play a major role in your wife’s growth in her relationship with God. She needs you to grow in your relationship with Christ in order for you to be able to lead her and your children closer to him. This doesn’t mean you have to know more, but simply have a vision to see your family become everything God has destined them to be.

BMWK, Husbands are you doing everything you should be as a follower of Christ?