by Charli Penn-Watkins (manwifeanddog.com)
Marriage is a lot of things ““ teamwork, rewarding, inspiring ““ but easy it is not. It’s during those moments that you’ve both reached wit’s end and you’re looking at each other with more disdain than love, that you often need an easy out. A moment to just press refresh and find a way to forget the last day or so and only look forward. A moment when suddenly what you loved most about them matters more than why you want to rip their head off. For us, those moments often come after we’ve cashed in on one of those “love coupon” you always see for sale in gift shops and bookstores.
Yes, we buy them, and believe it or not, they do help. Sometimes they’re just silly enough to get us to share a chuckle, which often is all we need to do to clear our heads. Certain times we take them way more seriously than others (Think: Yes to a “kiss and makeup, no questions asked” redemption, but an I.O.U for “an over the top romantic evening” when our schedules just won’t allow it.) Either way, we urge you to try them. Make them, buy them, it’s your call. What matters most is what they say. If you’re new to this, here are 10 coupons I recommend every couple exchange with the promise that they can be redeemed when needed in your marriage.
“Good for One Duty Swap”
Because for once you’d rather skip the grocery store and go get the oil changed instead. Monotony is boring!
“Good for An Evening of Cuddling”
Because it’s good for your souls, and sometimes says more than words can.
“Good for One Day to Sleep On It”
Because not all problems can be fixed “just like that.”
“Good for One Argument Time Out”
Because sometimes you’re just nowhere near a resolution and life must go on.
“Good for Dismissal of a Repeat Offense”
Because you knew better, but it happened again anyway.
“Good for A Hug and a Kiss When You Need It Most”
Because, well, sometimes that’s all you really need to feel better.
“Good for Ending One Senseless Argument, No Questions Asked”
Because you can’t win “˜em all.
“Good for A Night of Passion, Even When You’re Beat”
Because sometimes you just need to make your partner happy.
“Good for an Early Bed Time, Even If Things Go Undone”
Because sometimes you’re really just too tired to get it all done and you need to recharge without letting your partner down.
“Good for Your Favorite Homemade Meal, Prepared With Love”
Because if you’re eating together, you’re spending quality time together, and getting a chance to talk. That’s never a bad thing!
“Good for A Chance to Continue A Conversation The Other Person Ended”
Because just because they’re “finished discussing this,” doesn’t mean you are.
“Good for A Little More Patience With Me”
Because it’s inevitable that you will every now and again push each other to your limits.
What coupons would you add?
Charli Penn-Watkins is the blogger behind Man, Wife & Dog. A newlywed that’s blogging her way through all the ups and downs of marriage, Charli is also the relationships editor on Essence.com. Check her out on Twitter at @ManWifeDog.
Thanks for sharing BMWK family~ 😉
Thanks for sharing BMWK family~ 😉
I love doing this!!! It’s so much fun and it’s an easy and creative way to say “I love you”.
I love doing this!!! It’s so much fun and it’s an easy and creative way to say “I love you”.
Great list Charli!
I will use these and will create others. This has been a trying year for me personally and professionally and at times there has been some strain on our marriage. But I’m going to fight for my marriage and try to get us back to a new spot because everything can be made new!!
I will use these and will create others. This has been a trying year for me personally and professionally and at times there has been some strain on our marriage. But I’m going to fight for my marriage and try to get us back to a new spot because everything can be made new!!
Awesome! I love this!
I’ve done this for my mom growing up but haven’t done it for hubby. Maybe this will be his Christmas list. I’d add 1 for getting control of the TV for the night, breakfast in bed, and taking the dog out at night haha.
I would like to add a “Good for a one guilt-free side-eye because you saw me come upstairs, take off my clothes, and climb in bed. Why didn’t you ask me to get you some juice before I came upstairs?”
HA! Hubby and I had agreed to no gifts for each other, but perhaps a gift for “us”. I love these ideas, but will have to think about it, to be sure it doesn’t violate what we agreed on!
I have really enjoyed what I read here. You guys have great ideas and great thoughts. Thank you for sharing them.