I wish I could tell you that I can look back on my twenties and reminisce about having the best times of my life. But I can’t. I spent most of my twenties in a very bad, tumultuous relationship that left me physically and mentally drained. I kept breaking up and going back and breaking up and going back. But when I was 28 years old, I finally decided to break free for good. I decided to make smarter decisions so that I could have the life and the relationships that I desired.
#1. I Decided to Feel the Pain. You see, before when the pain of breaking up was too much to bear, I would just go back to the relationship. But when I finally decided to face my pain instead of avoiding it, I was able to set myself free.
#2. I Decided to Focus on Me. I was so unhappy. And all of my focus was on my relationship and my mate. I had neglected myself, my desires, my wants, and my needs. I wish I could say I neglected my goals. But to be honest, I didn’t have any because I was so consumed in the relationship. When I took my focus off of the relationship, and off of him, I was free to work on me.
#3. I Decided to Let Go. And when I say let go…I realllllly mean LET GO. I let go of the blame, I let go of trying to figure out why things were going wrong, I let go of caring if money was owed to me. I let it all go. I sold my house, I put my stuff in storage, and I “got the hell out of Dodge” as fast as I could. Because sometimes you have to let go and forgive others and yourself in order to move on with your life.
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So there you have it. I did those 3 things and my life literally changed course. Now it’s your turn to share what makes you smarter. Go to www.HyundaiSmarter.com and post a selfie with your own motto, using hastag #SUTW. Share how you are “shaking up the world” and include a message on what you are doing to be SMARTER in the way you live your life. You can also share these messages on your own social media channel. Every day, through November 21, 2014, five selfies will be selected to receive a Hyundai branded cell phone charger.
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— RonnieTyler (@RonnieTyler) November 3, 2014
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Christine St.Vil says
Love it! Very powerful & lifechanging lessons. Learning to let go and forgiving was definitely one of the hardest ones for me. Thanks for sharing!