It was July 27th, 2013 at around 6:13 PM that I said, “I DO” to my beyond beautiful, supernaturally given gift, Natasha Ann Miller. As my friends would say, I had crossed over into the #goodlife! Now being married almost 2 years, I can freshly talk from the place of recognizing the things I wish I would have learned before I got married. So, if I had the opportunity to talk to myself one year ago, this is what I would share.
1. Learn Not to Worry, but Trust God
If you only knew how much time I took worrying how God was going to bring my spouse into my life. After graduating from college, it was like okay God….IM READY, which I would repeat that phrase everyday in my prayer time. Each minute I spent worrying how she was going to come, or when she was coming robbed me from enjoying the season God had me in. If you are single waiting on God for your spouse, please do not waste time wondering HOW God is going to do it, but TRUST that He will do it. Your marriage season will come in God’s timing.
2. Learn How to Manage Personal Finances
It is said that finances is one of the top causes of divorce today. Many think once they get married, money will eventually work itself out. WRONG! When you are single, its easy to get away with a budget less life. Once you are married, it is one of the most necessary disciplines needed. I encourage you to start a budget now, and do some study on personal finances. Luke 14:28 states it so perfectly, “Don’t begin to build until you have considered the cost.” If you can learn this concept while single, you will bypass many arguments during budget time and your spouse will thank you for it.
3. Learn Yourself
Marriage is the process by which two become ONE! Well, it’s a lot easier for those two to become one when you understand the parts of you that refuses to surrender. When you know yourself well, and can acknowledge where you need Christ to make your weaknesses His strength. It makes the merge of two individuals a piece of cake. The first few years of marriage is most difficult for those that refuse to give up and surrender to God’s inventive method for Christ likeness. Learning yourself is best done in the environment of healthy friendships, volunteering at your local church, and allowing the Word to reveal those hidden things in your heart fighting against selfless living.
The ultimate goal in marriage is to become one with your spouse and Christ that He might be glorified through your union. There are so many things that I wish I would have known to do before I got married, but I can say those 3 things will help you greatly to prepare for your marriage.
BMWK, if you’re married, what would you add to this list?
“my beyond beautiful, supernaturally given gift, Natasha Ann Miller”
I love it! You are like, way too cool for saying that about your wife. You rocked it!
Excellent points – all of which the Lord has been dealing with me periodically!
That’s beautiful! In your wait which I know was painful. Makes me appreciate my husband more. I never intended to cause hurt by misunderstanding. I naturally just love and kept at it blindly. I was ready for you too. I naturally trust you I know the man you are. You are a GREAT man of God, because of that most importantly you have freshness in your life. I only want to protect our future and our children and our families immediate and extended. Blessing and Anointing cannot be taken lightly mainly because no one can take them away it’s just and loving not harmful to anyone or thing. Life and nature go together. You are my storm and I’m your calmness this weather doesn’t take us out we always come back together. We know and lean on nature to guides us and our instincts can’t keep us apart. I love you even when we hurt. I live for you and not for all your work. God Blessed you and you will be grateful always! Your integrity to all helps keep you so profound and challenging to figure. I love you’re humor even when it can be too much. We will always be together even when we apart.You are my heart! Love you EB!