Almost anything one could fathom can at least have the opportunity to be overcome if both parties are willing to work on their relationship. Both parties have to be willing to come to the table to discuss the challenges and work together to overcome them. If one party or another has decided they are going to fight the process and do things to undermine the process, then the relationship is at a stalemate, or a very tough crossroads.
Coaches, counselors, pastors, friends and relatives should have a couple’s best interest at heart when they are trying to help them and they want the couple to win. The toughest challenge in any relationship is when one person is simply not willing to work on the relationship or doesn’t believe in the process. Relationship sabotage can be a symptom of other issues in an individual, such as personal insecurity/trust issues, trying to create a “self-fulfilling prophecy” to their pattern of relationships in the past and any of several other things could be the underlying cause.
If your mate is trying to sabotage the relationship or the work to rebuild the relationship, try to get them to seek individual help to find out what the underlying cause of this behavior is, then work on those issues. Until the sabotage is addressed, the relationship can’t move forward.
BMWK, Can you think anything to add to list?