I like doing yard work, but the one thing I absolutely hate is weeds! They are ugly and their roots are strong. Once you pull them out, they leave ugly holes in your yard that have to be filled with soil. But weed pulling is necessary if you want a pretty yard. Did you know you also need to pull weeds in your marriage if you want it to thrive? Yes there are weeds in your marriage and they are disguised in different ways.

1.  Weeds that are hidden within the soil or flowers you buy that you are unaware of. You won’t see them until your flowers start growing. You ignore them and before you know it those weeds will choke the life out of your flowers. These are behaviors you believe are just part of your personality or your spouse’s personality that you think will eventually go away.  Don’t allow those seemingly insignificant behaviors to go unchecked or they will choke the life out of your marriage. Deal with those behaviors right away.

2.  Weeds that masquerade as flowers. At first you think these weeds are actually exotic flowers so you allow them to hang around because they bring personality to your yard. Eventually, these weeds will steal the life from your flowers and while your flowers start to wither, the roots on the weeds will grow stronger and deeper. These kinds of weeds are family and friends that are seemingly happy that you are happily married all the while wishing your relationship will fail. These fake people look like they have your back but be very careful because at some point they will show you their real purpose which is to destroy your pretty lawn, A.K.A. your marriage.

3.  Weeds that pop up all over your lawn. These weeds may appear each season. You don’t know where they came from or what kind of weed it is, but you know that they are making your yard look really bad and you want them gone. These weeds are different problems that pop up in your marriage. You can’t prevent all troubles that you will face in marriage so the key is to recognize the problem and tackle it as soon as possible. Don’t allow time to pass without doing something about it because you run the risk of that problem growing into a weed so large that it starts looking like a tree. At that point professional help may be needed.

Tend to your marriage like you do you yard, with loving care. Be vigilant against all weeds no matter how small or pretty they may seem. Use your weed and feed which is your common sense and prayer. Prayer can act as a repellent and will also reveal any hidden dangers within your marriage.

BMWK – Are there any weeds you need to pull in your marriage? Can you describe additional types of weeds that can harm a marriage?